Many guys have liked me, but none I could even try to get myself to feel something for. The ones who showed interest and who I liked back, always ended up rejecting me. Usually during the initial stages (first few months), This clearly indicates something is wrong with me. They have every right to reject me, especially if they feel they can find something better. I hold the same right. But at the end of the day, no matter how much you hold yourself strong, if every liking has ended up becoming nothing.. then I eventually realised that even when a guy flirted, he didn't like me. And it was true every time. Even when I was convinced the guy loved me the same way back. I don't fall for someone easily, I always took my time and enjoyed the stable increase towards a closer bond. The guys seemed just as fine.. that is until I made it clear that I wanted more. I am a beautiful and classy girl (as friends say) so I know I must have some nasty personality traits. I have tried to figure those out and fix myself but the outcome has never been any different. How can I distance myself from this pain? How can I stop hurting every single day? How do I stop feeling like I'm not good enough/worthy enough? How do I HAPPILY accept that no man will ever love me the way I always imagined myself finding? Everyone around me has gotten in and out of relationships or found someone, but I am always the single one... always. I realised at this stage that I will not find anyone, I'm too damaged. I am extremely confident and fun loving, but when it comes to love... I just won't open up again because I associate that with being rejected.. its all i have ever known. How do I see the positives in being single forever and how do I fix myself so that I can be happy in solitude and that if no man will ever love me, then its fine too.
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Don't be a defeatist. You're a good person with crap luck. The karma of the world's in the toilet, fools can find 'love' anywhere n good people are a needle in a haystack. Dating sucks for people with an honest desire to love n be loved. Yr gonna have to learn to say Fuck it n get acquainted with grief. No-one wants to but eventually you'll see it separates the adults from the kids (not a great answer, Ha, good luck)0
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