not make an ass of myself by saying something that would be offensive to a black woman if I find myself on a date with her. I ask this because I've seen a few questions relating to black women and white men dating and one comment I saw frequently was that the white guy would say something not meaning to mean but it would be offensive. Could you ladies give some tips on things to avoid or share something that a white guy inadvertently did that maybe wasn't kosher lol?
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I agree about the hair part. I always felt uncomfortable or insulted when a guy or just about anyone asked me if my hair is real. I understand why they ask, though, but it's better to stay away from that topic and really get to know the girl for who she is.
Don't compare her to other women (black, white, mixed, etc).
I guess overall be willing to accept her for who she is if you're really into her and treat her like a human. I totally understand the stereotypes, but no two black women are the same and it's better to stay away from that topic. For instance, there's a white guy I'm good friends with and he has never once asked if my hair is real, what I'm mixed with or why I look the way I do, why I speak the way I speak, etc. I haven't even asked him what he's mixed with and I honestly don't care because I think he's a wonderful person. We have normal conversations about life and laugh about things that have nothing to do with race or ethnicity. He's probably curious about all of those things, but he is smart enough to just get know me for me and he will figure out the answers without asking just from spending time with me.
Hope that helped!2