There was this gal I was talking to who I was really into. We were set up by a friend and we became very close very fast, something which doesn't usually happen for me. We had differances, but we both enjoyed them. Our conversations were via text though, yet we had planned a meeting. It was something I had been looking forward to greatly, I'd even cashed in my childhood savings so that I could make sure she saw her favorite area of the place we were going.
I was there for her as she was depressed as she broke down and just always trying to help. One day we got to talking that she was being placed into shitty positions by someone who she was too forgiving to cut off. I talked her through it, and she told me I was the only one who talked to her about things that made her happy, and said my words brought her to tears.
Then two days later, I asked her when we were going, and she never answered me. I heard from our mutual friend (who heard from another friend. That she went back with her ex. He was the negative influence. This is an ex that had cheated on her in the past and mistreated her. Who she got back with because he threatened to have her jumped and that he would commit suicide.
I've talked to her a bit since but we haven't brought up what she did to me. I just sent her a message today (about a month after the silence) taking about how that felt and how I hope her the best, cuz I mean, I do.
Right now this guy is fanning the fires keeping her detached from her family and friends, and it hurts that this is being done to her.
Meanwhile me? That money I saved up? I've been using it to buy weed so that I can have some easy nights. And I wasn't a smoker till this happened and it feels so horribly shitty that I'm burning the money I had to spend with this girl to cope with her absence.
Please, what are your thoughts? I still like her, but what do I do? How am I to believe the sweet things she said to me when I was left in silence? I still want to help her :/
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This sounds really complicated, I think she probably still likes you and she may just be with him cause he threatened to commit suicide if she didn't. But you said your answer yourself. You WANT to be with her and help her through this and so if thats what you want to do then do it! I think if she starts talking to you again ( keep in mind he's probably not letting her talk to you) then she'll really appreciate you once this is all over1