I know it's long. But read this article in full. It pretty much sums up my thoughts about what I feel you should know and what you should probably be wary of if you choose to continue this relationship.
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Here's the thing six years is not a tremendous age gap but you have to ask yourself Could you see yourself at 20 dating someone that is 14? Could your see yourself now dating someone 8 years old (as they are six years your junior). If you had a child how would you feel about your 14 year old dating a 20 year old man. Now take those feelings and thoughts and I'm sure you'll be seeing this relationship in a completely different light.
In my opinion not only is this relationship illegal it'seems morally wrong. At 20 years old I can't imagine what you two could possibly have in common your just in two different placesin life. He's a college age man with a girl that just barely in high school.
I agree with another opinion here I think this relationship is only going to lead to heartache for you and if he really truly cares for you he will wait until your 18.
Oh wow that's crazy when I was 14 I still play hide and seek with my friends in our backyard. Oh well kids these days. And to tell you I am already mature in that age. Mature in helping my parents doing house chores and knowing that as an adult I have responsibility to takecare stuff at home too. To be honest you're too young to deal with love life. You don't know anything. I swear. You think you know something but you don't. Be prepared for heartbreak because you'll eventually gonna be heartbroken or get pregnant early. You're lucky if the man you're with now is really a nice guy and would stay with you no matter what. It doesn't really matter if he really likes you now because he really does but you, you are too young for him.
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BYE FELICIA!! Honestly do any ADULT family members know because if i was a older sister of yours, I would beat yo ass and his ass to some fucking common sense because you obviously dont have that. He dont either. You wana date a grown ass man, act like you know what you doing so when the dude show his true intentions I hope you have on your big girl panties and deal with it. In my eyes and MY OPINION your too young and he's dumb. People wana sit here say that shit is okay but NO its wrong. Would ANY of you let your child thats 14 date a 20 year old? Smh Over it!
I wouldn't look at it any differently than any other relationship, go about it you normally would dating anyone else. The only time I would be cautious is if you do have sex, because admitting to that can get him arrested and charged as a sex offender, even if you consented to it. Other than that, I'm glad you found someone that cares about you, and I wish the both of you the best of luck!
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Do your parents know? If they don't the reason you're not telling them you know what you're doing is wrong, this guy is a loser if he's dating a 14 year old flat out, he can't get girls in his age group so he's going to date girls who are impressed by all the stuff he has as an older dude. Break it off this dude is a loser and he's a creep.
Totally agree. Your parents should definitely know about this. What if he did decide to try to rape you or something one day? What if he's building up your trust and comfort with him so that he can make his move when he feels the timing is right? He's too old, and you're too young. That's how it is. Don't seek approval if you clearly know that others will see red flags.
@Kroakies_krickees @Asker You understand that everyone is not going to be okay with this everyone knows that this is wrong and deep down you do to if you were so confident that you're making the right decision here you wouldn't be asking this question of Random people on the internet.
As long as your happy then good for you guys. The thing is, down the road you are both going to realize you want different things out of life. You may love him now, but you will realize what you really want out of a guy someday. It's really hard to know what you want at 14. I'm 22 and I still don't know what I want. So just take things slow and enjoy life cause you'll only be 14 15 16, etc once!
Be careful it's a big age difference and he may say all these things about only wanting you and everything but he may not mean it, and he can get into a lot of trouble for being with you because you are a minor. He may end up hurting you so just be careful hun and don't let him take advantage of you.
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My thoughts? Stop using an account with an older age. Stop dating someone that should now serve jail time for being with you. His isn't technically a paedo because they go after pubescent children but he is surely a scumbag or terribly immature and possibly slow in the head.
that's disgusting on his part. you should break up with him. i'm sorry but that's 1 illegal 2 pedophilia 3 disgusting and 4 disrespectful! no MAN should go after a YOUNG GIRL. it's so wrong for so many reasons. do yourself a favor and get out!
hello im 16 and im dating a 29 yearold he's never once asked me for sex i constantly tell him hecan leave any time if he wants someone older we been dating going on 11 months and he tells me he could never love anyone like he loves me that im his one and only ture love... i love him to and i know he's the one for me so fallow your heart and if you ever wanna talk you can message me im here any time
Age of consent is 16 minimum... At least in the States and really a 20 yr old? That's a 6 year difference and you're not even 18 when you are 20 you start to think about life and the future what are you going to do when he wants to settle down also you have 4years left of high school who know what is going to happen and who you're going to meet who he is going to meet also the fact that you had to ask this question shows that you have doubt in your mind and a small part of you knows your wrong
your going to regret this when your older. no one can call it off but you. i know if feels good to be wanted especially since he's your first but this just doesn't look good at all. looks like shit smells like shit its probably doodoo
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I know it's long. But read this article in full. It pretty much sums up my thoughts about what I feel you should know and what you should probably be wary of if you choose to continue this relationship.
:)
Here's the thing six years is not a tremendous age gap but you have to ask yourself Could you see yourself at 20 dating someone that is 14? Could your see yourself now dating someone 8 years old (as they are six years your junior). If you had a child how would you feel about your 14 year old dating a 20 year old man. Now take those feelings and thoughts and I'm sure you'll be seeing this relationship in a completely different light.
In my opinion not only is this relationship illegal it'seems morally wrong. At 20 years old I can't imagine what you two could possibly have in common your just in two different placesin life. He's a college age man with a girl that just barely in high school.
I agree with another opinion here I think this relationship is only going to lead to heartache for you and if he really truly cares for you he will wait until your 18.
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one your to young
second you lied on your profile
third its illegal
and fourth and finally dafaq?
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Lol yeah sorry but it fit perfectly @megfo030
Lmao I don't actually care its fine ahah
Lol ok @megfo030
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Oh wow that's crazy when I was 14 I still play hide and seek with my friends in our backyard. Oh well kids these days. And to tell you I am already mature in that age. Mature in helping my parents doing house chores and knowing that as an adult I have responsibility to takecare stuff at home too. To be honest you're too young to deal with love life. You don't know anything. I swear. You think you know something but you don't. Be prepared for heartbreak because you'll eventually gonna be heartbroken or get pregnant early. You're lucky if the man you're with now is really a nice guy and would stay with you no matter what. It doesn't really matter if he really likes you now because he really does but you, you are too young for him.
BYE FELICIA!!
Honestly do any ADULT family members know because if i was a older sister of yours, I would beat yo ass and his ass to some fucking common sense because you obviously dont have that. He dont either.
You wana date a grown ass man, act like you know what you doing so when the dude show his true intentions I hope you have on your big girl panties and deal with it. In my eyes and MY OPINION your too young and he's dumb. People wana sit here say that shit is okay but NO its wrong. Would ANY of you let your child thats 14 date a 20 year old?
Smh
Over it!
Yeah there is one scumbag that said he would let his daughter do this.
Somebody should beat his ass too.
Thats crazy, way their parents at?
Chick sound like they need a fucking chaperone.
Or a cage and a book
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This is true
I wouldn't look at it any differently than any other relationship, go about it you normally would dating anyone else. The only time I would be cautious is if you do have sex, because admitting to that can get him arrested and charged as a sex offender, even if you consented to it. Other than that, I'm glad you found someone that cares about you, and I wish the both of you the best of luck!
Do your parents know? If they don't the reason you're not telling them you know what you're doing is wrong, this guy is a loser if he's dating a 14 year old flat out, he can't get girls in his age group so he's going to date girls who are impressed by all the stuff he has as an older dude. Break it off this dude is a loser and he's a creep.
Totally agree. Your parents should definitely know about this. What if he did decide to try to rape you or something one day? What if he's building up your trust and comfort with him so that he can make his move when he feels the timing is right? He's too old, and you're too young. That's how it is. Don't seek approval if you clearly know that others will see red flags.
@Kroakies_krickees @Asker You understand that everyone is not going to be okay with this everyone knows that this is wrong and deep down you do to if you were so confident that you're making the right decision here you wouldn't be asking this question of Random people on the internet.
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Yes. Arrested Development FTW.
My thought is that he is a pedo! There is no good reason a 20 year old guy that will make it okay to date a 14 year old girl...
As long as your happy then good for you guys. The thing is, down the road you are both going to realize you want different things out of life. You may love him now, but you will realize what you really want out of a guy someday. It's really hard to know what you want at 14. I'm 22 and I still don't know what I want. So just take things slow and enjoy life cause you'll only be 14 15 16, etc once!
Be careful it's a big age difference and he may say all these things about only wanting you and everything but he may not mean it, and he can get into a lot of trouble for being with you because you are a minor. He may end up hurting you so just be careful hun and don't let him take advantage of you.
My thoughts?
Stop using an account with an older age.
Stop dating someone that should now serve jail time for being with you.
His isn't technically a paedo because they go after pubescent children but he is surely a scumbag or terribly immature and possibly slow in the head.
that's disgusting on his part. you should break up with him. i'm sorry but that's 1 illegal 2 pedophilia 3 disgusting and 4 disrespectful! no MAN should go after a YOUNG GIRL. it's so wrong for so many reasons. do yourself a favor and get out!
hello im 16 and im dating a 29 yearold he's never once asked me for sex i constantly tell him hecan leave any time if he wants someone older we been dating going on 11 months and he tells me he could never love anyone like he loves me that im his one and only ture love... i love him to and i know he's the one for me so fallow your heart and if you ever wanna talk you can message me im here any time
No ! That's pathetic and lame on his part and makes him a pedophile
Not a pedophile. She has most certainly gone through puperty
Age of consent is 16 minimum... At least in the States and really a 20 yr old? That's a 6 year difference and you're not even 18 when you are 20 you start to think about life and the future what are you going to do when he wants to settle down also you have 4years left of high school who know what is going to happen and who you're going to meet who he is going to meet also the fact that you had to ask this question shows that you have doubt in your mind and a small part of you knows your wrong
You trolling or nah? LOLing
Thoughts: Dats some bull & illegal, stop that child, stay in your lane!
your going to regret this when your older. no one can call it off but you. i know if feels good to be wanted especially since he's your first but this just doesn't look good at all. looks like shit smells like shit its probably doodoo