is that too big of an age difference to date? i mean we really hit it off and we like each other a lot.
I am 17 and he's 30?
What Guys Said 31
You know you're trolling, right?13
You're still in school and he is not. This is going to limit you in the long term. You're also likely to just end up being treated like his daughter that he has "fun" with so he's going to have full control over you and it won't be good. He's likely just interested in your looks and sexual aspects. Plus while you may think it's great that he has "life experience" he's gonna know everything to say to make you like him and it will not be genuine. You're nowhere near as "mature" as him. I'd avoid it.3
I'm going to laugh when you'll just be manipulated into sex and thrown away after like 5 months. You are 56% of his age, and the age difference between you is 76% of your current age. You have NOTHING in common.
Of course, maybe I should just be a slight bit less pessimistic or something, but that would just be unrealistic.5
You have zero in common with a 30 yr old. The difference emotionally and physically is like night and day. The only reason a 30 yr old man would want to be with a 17 yr old girl is sex. It is an ego boost for him. He he might pretend to have things in common but he cannot relate to anything that you find interesting.
on top of that he can also go to jail for rape. regardless what the age of consent, if you are not 18 and someone reports it, and they get the wrong prosecuting attorney, they can go after him.2
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As long as it's legal in your state, do it. I'd say do it anyway, but he could get in serious trouble if someone found out that you were together. If he were convicted, he would have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life.
That said, I think that relationships like that can work very well. I'm 21, and the girls who seem to really like me are all much younger than me. The problem is that I can't date them because they're all in high school. Younger girls seem to look up to me in a way, whereas girls my age just tend to look for my flaws. Good luck :-)1
"We really hit it off" = "He gave me money"9
I hope this is a troll.
If it's not, well... what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.3
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in here if you are 18 you can do whatever you want but you're also responsible for everything you do.
my oppinion is to wait till 18 and think twice and if you still believe it's the right decision good luck1
I think it really depends on your maturity levels, but I can understand why it might raise an eyebrow with some. I cannot imagine dating a 17 year old, but that's just me. I knew of a couple who were married for around 40 years, and when they met they were of similar ages to yourself and this guy you like. So it can work. Go for it if that's what you want, but take on board the advice that has been given to you here.1
Wait until after your 18th birthday for legal reasons. I understand that 17 year olds can prove themselves to be more mature than 21 year olds in certain circumstances. But the law can get you and especially this guy in trouble. I'm almost 30, and personally I wouldn't get in a romantic relationship with a girl younger than 22, although I would consider have a fling with a girl who is at least 18.0
17 and 30... That's quite an age gap. I don't think you realize just how much, or what you're getting yourself into, to be quite honest. At his point in life, he should be married, have children, be a home owner with a career, things like that. You're just barely gonna be graduated high school, at the most. You 2 are at completely separate stages of your lives. Not to mention, 13 years? Woah, I'm not being negative here, but that's kind of a lot. He was in middle school while you were in diapers. But, its y'all's decision ultimately. Wish you the best.0
Well... Assuming he is not a pedophile... Or into you cause you a fresh piece of meat ( young and hot) I'd say go for it. You are going to faces lot of social obstaclea, but love is love and we have no right to object what is that is not mine. But really... How long have you known him? I'm bias... But seriously...0
THERE ARE TWO THINGS WHICH MAY HAPPEN...
1.) at some point you will realize that you want to explore more as you are just 17... way to young...
2.) you will at some point wish you had a partner around your age...(trust me on this one)
but if you truly love him then go for it0
Lool. He's 30, ur 17? He got a BMW and a house at Atlantic city? Grils are so weird sometimes. If u like the guy go for it, in my opinion it's a big misstake. When u turn 25 he'll be what? 38? When you turn 30, he'll be 43. Lol. Again, if he got money and u like that kind of stuff go for it.0
Enjoy his mid life crisis lol2
Go for it. Just go for it.1
i wouldn't pursue it. whats a 30 year old doing trying to date a 17 year old? trying to relive his glory days?
im sure you can find someone thats more closer to your age and is mature.1
I think it's too much, it would be different when you are 27 and he is 40 for exmpla but now it's too much1
Yeah that's to big of an age difference1
This relationship won't lead to anything good. Its meaningless and based just on sex.1
Guess what!!! He's only using you to boost up his self esteem. FACT!0
Matching of Physical appearence is a matter not age.0
Well, you should be okay your about the age of consent i was 13 years older than this girl i used hang out with0
Go for it. Don't listen to anyone else. Life is too short. And if it doesn't work out then take it as a learning experience.1
My girl is 17 years younger than me. We click like nothing I've ever experienced. We finish each others comments, think the same way, have the same interests. Yes, at first I think it bothered me more than it did her, but as we dated more and more we fell in love and she's now become my second true love. My first passed away. This girl is my whole world and although we are engaged to be married we've not set a date. Something that gets in the way however is her era and being friends with so many guys. It's a bit intimidating and can sometimes spark some jealousy on my part. I do wonder sometimes if I don't love her more than she loves me, but maybe that's just the age thing too. With that said, you are 17 which makes you a minor so before you do anything with this guy make sure you've turned 18 at least. It could cause some issues for him that can be avoided. Aside from that I say go for it. Good luck.1
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What Girls Said 27
He's just gonna use you for sex. If you're fine with that, go ahead. This big of an age gap, and you're nothing but a young vagina to him.
Girls like you are young and dumb and easy to manipulate. This is why he's with a teen in high school as opposed to an adult woman in a career around his age.
So if you're fine with just being young pussy to him, go ahead. But you have been warned little lady.2
Ewwwwwwwww. Yes, the age difference is too big.2
Nope. it's fine people like different shit. I don't like men my age or younger I'm 26. I been dealing with a guy who is 43 for years sometimes you just like to go for old.. "DO YOU" ;-)1
Mm, it depends. I did something similar (I'm 18, he's 33... We aren't together anymore but it was interesting while it lasted) so I say that if it feels right, by all means go ahead and do it. The problem with me and the guy I dated though was that I'm really close to my family and respect their judgement, but they don't want me dating anyone more than 4 years older than me, so I had to keep my relationship secret. That eventually didn't work out so we just kind of drifted into friendship.
Just keep in mind your circumstances and how you two relate to each other, especially if there's someone who you know will strongly disapprove. If I recall correctly he can be charged with statutory rape because you're under 18 and he's over 4 years older than you. Otherwise, follow your heart.0
13 age difference not that big. But you are younger than 18 so it doesn't sound good to me. If you were older than 18 , i could say "go for it"1
I'm 19 and my guys 30.
That said, 19 is older than it sounds than 17.
Also, he has been a family friend for like 10 years so there are some differences.
Just be careful if there is any sexual contact. If you get pregnant, some states might choose to press charges against him.
Big question. Do your parents know about this?0
I want to date older guys in the future, I'm 18 but the highest I'd probably go is 20 and then stop there. But if you really love that person and want to be with them for the rest of your life then go for it. I still think that's a big age difference but then if that's what you want then go for it.0
Let me put it simple: Yes. Yes, it is. It's not only a big diffrence, it's a HUGE age gap. Ask yourself - He's a grown man in his 30's and you are a teenage girl in your 17's. What could he possibly see in you that he cannot find in a woman that is same age as he? He probably screams 'WRONG' if he cannot attract a person his own age and goes for a teenager. He probably wants to use you in some way and he will say anything you want to hear to make you believe otherwise. And if you are asking a question like this than I assume you are not so sure if this right yourself. So listen to your intuition, there is nothing a man his age could offer to you.1
I think that it's too big of an age difference. You have to keep in mind that you are still a minor in the eyes of the law. There are also a lot of guys who there who purposely go after younger girls because they see it more as a game. Even though you may disagree with me, I can pretty much assure you that the two of you are different maturities.1
It's worth trying!
I was 19 and dated someone who was 33 years old. It didn't work out later on, but it was a good experience. :)0
Too big of an age difference. Wait til you're older.0
When i was 16 i was with a man 30, i felt crazy but we had a better connection than boys my age. And he was attractive so i didn't feel to bad lol if that makes sense.0
Two words: statutory rape.1
That's way too much , You're still in school or just getting out. This is a full grown man , Who has lived. I dated a guy older when I was around your age , Not as old as he. And a lot of times , I believe they think they can parent you in a way , I didn't like it.1
I see no problem with it. My parents are 10 years apart & happily married! Just make sure you're happy & safe.1
Don't do it!!! I'm telling you that any man who is dating a 17 year old is immature. A grown man won't have anything in common with you. Trust me. I have family member doing it and I told her to leave him cause unless she has no ambitions or care for herself she's just ruining her life. He has nothing to offer a grown woman so he uses what he does know about women to charm younger girls who are so enamored with how he treats them. It's because he's older so he's been around. Don't listen to girls who say to do it. Older men are okay but only after you've hit at least 28 years old yourself.2
What matters most is that you like each other a lot so why bother? I am 20 and my boyfriends 39. We started dating when I was only 18 and he was 37. Now, we have bigger age gap than yours, what do you say? As long as you both know your limitations.
It's working just the way we both want it. He makes me so happy like he's the best thing that ever happened to me and he's my first boyfriend, hopefully my last. I'm so picky and he's got every quality I want in a man. I would say I prefer to date a man than a boy who knew nothing else to do than being such a jerk, don't even know what he wants. Don't worry about age gap. If you're happy then go for it.3
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