I am really confused right now. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months now and I really don't know what we are. We hit it off right away, talked for hours the first time we met and kept in contact ever since. A while ago, he told me he "liked liked" me. Later he told me I was the best thing that happend to him in a really long time. His last girlfriend broke up with him quite a while ago, and since then he has been an emotional wrack. He even tried to kill himself. I think he told himself he doesn't want to be hurt again, so he keeps pushing his potential feelings for me aside. Because although he considers himself to be single, we do a lot of couple stuff. We spent the weekends together and it's not just about sex ( we do a lot of activities together), he always pays for me, I spent a lot of time talking to his mother, once she made pancakes and told me all about his childhood, he gives me flowers and we still talk about everything. We also text every day. But sometimes he will fall into a deep crisis and then he doesn't even want to see me. This is really exhausting and confusing for me, because I know what he says but it conflicts with the way he acts. So, what do you guys think?
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There are several things that may be going on - first I don't think he is playing games with you because he had you meet his mother. At first, when you said he tried to kill himself, I thought that might have been bull, but the mother meeting makes me think twice. Having said that, it seems he has some emotional or psychological issues that you do not know about. Has he ever said he is bipolar, or if he has some other problem? My brother was bipolar and he was like that, and I know several people with bipolar disorder. They often tell very big lies so much they may even get to the point where they themselves believe the lies!
Anyway, I think, if you want this relationship to progress, you need to find out more about him. Ask him if he has any issues like biploar, or ask his mother. He may have it and not know it. Write down his oddities in as much detail as possible and check them against medical sites. Please note - you can't play doctor here, but at least if you see a lot of issues that point in a direction, you can back away before you get burned. Anyone I know who married someone who was bipolar had a very difficult marriage.
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