I recently told the man that I was in a casual relationship with for three months that I have feelings for him. I told him that I can no longer be with him without it meaning something to him. He offered to take sex off the table and just be friends. Three days later he calls me to ask me to come over. When he got here he became very affectionate with me, something he's never done before. He caressed my cheek, we made out on my couch, and when we had sex he actually kissed me during it. He even said "I'm being intimate." He was doing all the things that would make me feel like he wanted more, too.
Now I feel like maybe he did those things because he knew I wanted him so that he can continue having sex with me. I don't want to believe that because I've never known him to be that much of an asshole.
I also don't know what to believe because one time before, when he was drunk, depressed and wanted me to comfort him, he told me that he really liked me and that he was being stupid because he "keeps fucking me."
Do you think he's being manipulative and doing what he knows I want him to do or do you think that he thought about it more and now he wants a relationship with me?
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The problem with manipulation is if it's done well, you won't know about it! Trust your instincts but only as far as the facts go- emotion clouds your judgement. Guys who manipulate girls are good at reading emotions and it helps them to camouflage their actions.
Of course it's possible he's indecisive or going through some shit etc but my feeling is that it's likely he's manipulating you. It looks to me like he withdrew sex and suggested friendship to gain trust. Later when you're probably still feeling a bit insecure he shows up and gives you what you're after, nobody says "I'm being intimate". I think he fucked up there, being to eager to demonstrate that he's giving you what you need. If you smell a rat there's usually one close by. lol0
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