I have been under this impression, for a while, that no guy would like girls for their smarts (except for zombies, but they rarely make for pleasant company when they are close to chomping your brains out) and bookishness.
So, I thought I'll get this straightened out once and for all. :)
Thank you for your answers.
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Hello there. I'm a smart, witty woman and I have to say you're both right and wrong. Intelligent guys DO want an intelligent partner, usually. If they don't, it's often because they enjoy a big gap in power and that can be hard to take anyway.
However, all guys, even smart ones are visual and most seek out traits like warmth and sweetness and consideration more than constant intellectual bantering. And let's be honest, we notice bulging biceps or a killer smile a lot too, so it's not really fair to say they're shallow and we aren't. It's just human nature.
Dressing in clothes that are flattering, having an attractive haircut, maintaining a healthy body, smiling and having open body language will all help to catch a man's eye more than brains. But the brains help make the right guy click with you.
It can be hard for intellectuals, who often live in a wonderful inner world, to focus a bit on the external apperance and emotional expression. But taking time to be mindful and tap into those facets of yourself really helps.1