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Why would you even calculate how much the flowers cost? If he had gotten you the same flowers but they had cost more would that have made you feel better?
You ruined your own birthday. Stop blaming it on your boyfriend. This is 100% your fault. He either feels ashamed of himself, or now sees you as a gold digger. You say that you deserve better, but it sounds like your boyfriend is the one that deserves better. You should apologize to him.
I'm not apologising to anyone, he should apologise to me for being so cheap. I saved up for his gift so the least he could do is do the same for me
Do you have any idea how childish you just sounded? You are literally measuring his love by the amount of money he spends on you. If you had gotten him something less expensive, your boyfriend most likely wouldn't pull this crap with you. A more expensive gift does not mean that it is more special. In fact a more expensive gift often has less thought put into it.
I got a girl flowers for her birthday and she was so grateful she cried. For many people flowers are a very special gift. Just because you didn't appreciate it doesn't mean he didn't put any thought into it. A lot of women love getting flowers. A lot of those women will go their whole lives never getting the flowers they want.
Not for their bday
The girl I got flowers for on her birthday cried because she was so moved.
I get flowers all the time from other dudes it isn't anything special to me
It may not be special to you, but it is special to a lot of women. The fact that flowers do mean so much to so many women is pretty strong evidence that it was a reasonable thought on his part, that you would appreciate flowers from your boyfriend. Clearly he didn't know that flowers didn't mean anything to you, or else he wouldn't have gotten them.
Think about how would you feel if you worked hard baking him something delicious to give him as a present, and then he responded that "That isn't special. That is something that could be done any day. I get baked goods all the time so it isn't anything special to me." Lets say it is true that baked goods don't mean anything to him. With so many guys liking their girlfriend baking things for them, would it be unreasonable for you to think he would appreciate the effort?
I am not saying you are a terrible girlfriend or bad person. This one time however, you were completely out of line. Bad gifts happen, at least he tried.
I appreciate your input :) thing is even if he made me something I like be happy. A guy at work buys me flowers lol so when my bf does it it's a little cliche.
voted A. my first gift after 3 months dating, I gave her a flower that was kept in jewellery box (for a purpose of testing) and after opening the box, she got so happy, hugged and kissed me. at that moment, I knew she was the one for me. next day, I gave her a ring, because I knew she cared much more about me than the price tags.
My love don't cost a thing - Jennifer Lopez.
flowers, card and balloons should have been good, if you were a teenager. and looking at your age range makes me realise that your man should have saved to buy you an economical gift, which is a little long lasting. as you did the same for him too.
but never mind, don't get angry on him and forgive him.
Thanks for understanding, it isn't the monetary value for me but just the fact he overlooked that I saved and got him something special and he didn't even bother putting thought into it
oh yes, I now understand your situation, so please ignore my first opinion. you have had 2 years together, that too when he is in financial trouble and you also saved money to gift him. So you have a right to expect something in return, which you never received properly.
if you were a gift taking girl, you would have left him in his financial difficulties, which you never did. He should have listened and talked to you when you told him about this. So you are right.
Exactly he should communicate these things to me, how else would it wirk
oh yes, exactly. he should have talked and said, I will get you something, when I get more money etc etc and the problem would have been solved.
or infact, there are lots of free activities (parks, picnic spots, beach, fun fairs etc) out there and I take my girlfriend there, when I have less money or he could have planned something romantic and cooked something for you for a candle light dinner at home.
I like art and all the galleries near us are free. So he isn't even using the knowledge he has about me to make it special. If he took me to a gallery I wouldn't have complained, u would have just been pleased that he knows me
True that. now forget what happened and be happy that at least he tried.
now talk to him politely and tell him to buy you something 'memorable' so that it reminds you of him, everytime you see that thing and keep it with you for a long time (as a memory). this is exactly what you wanted :).
I received a normal priced cologne (ck eternity) from my girlfriend on my birthday, but everytime I use that gifted cologne, it makes me feel much more special than using aventus creed (very expensive cologne) that I bought from my own money. So I understand you.
flowers, Balloons etc are perfectly fine for normal girlfriends. but most of the girls here do not realise that you saved money to buy him a good gift. you should have been treated specially just because of this kind gesture. this is why I am on your side, you should have talked to him after your birthday party. so you are wrong too and should apologize.
I guess it's more being unappreciated and other aspects of the relationship where we have problems so it just came down to this. I will speak with him about it and see where we decide to go from here
A gift is a gift. No one owes anyone anything, I think that it's sweet he remembered and even did this.
Thanks for your input
Sounds like he made an effort & you were rude to him >_
I didn't mean it in that way. I'm a sentimental person and he knows that, I would think after two years he would understand that part of me by now.
:/ obviously not that sentimental... but hey to each his own I'm just not a materialistic person just spending time with someone I care about would of been enough
I know, we are all different but I understand where you are coming from
"calculated it and the flowers didn't even amount to that much"
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How does that give you the right to call me a "bitch" that's a little much isn't it
Well, I have the right to say just about anything I want to you. Now, whether or not I should is a different story.
Regardless, just calling a spade a spade.
I guess in a way you're being ungrateful because its the thought that counts. Some guys dont even remember birthdays. But I do see where you're coming from. If its that big of a deal then break up with him, nothing you can really do
Thank you for your opinion :)
You are, easily, the most pathetically bad girlfriend to ever infest this forum...
You know he is having financial issues and yet he still does that... and thus you go to a website to ask what you should do while sounding off about what you did for him. I hope he dumps you.
However, and this is the most important part. Considering your age (25-34) you are either past your physical prime or extremely close so in terms of finding a handsome and successful man, your days are past so that is punishment enough for your ridiculous mentality.
Passed my physical prime? Lol do you know how hot I am? Haha I have guys hitting on me all the time and buying me flowers that is why I expect my man to go one step further to prove his worth to me.
@Asker You misunderstand. There comes an age that women begin to degrade which is much earlier than men. After that time passes, you will be considered (regardless of your CURRENT looks) a back burner situation replaced for a younger girl with a better demeanor.
Considering your mentality and what you seem to expect? You have little to no chance to ever landing a top notch guy and are destined to live a life full of regrets, sadness, anger, multiple mistakes and being let down. You can be angry with me all you wish, it makes absolutely no difference to me. I am simply telling you what you need to hear before it's too late for you which, by the way, it may already be.
Hahaha are you a future teller now then
@asker No, one doesn't need to have any intuition or be Miss Cleo to have been around the block, lived in the world, know (n) enough people to be able to make logical and intelligent deductions on the fly based on information offered by a person. You make it out like I am some sage but the bottom line is you don't even need me to be able to tell you these things as the proof is evident in society itself. Do your own research and you will see I am not wrong about a single facet of what I stated.
You may think me harsh or (if you're stupid) trolling you but the fact is you need to hear this because if you don't you run the risk of continuing your mundane direction which will only lead to what I suggested. Disagree with me all you want, be pissy at me all you want, but the smart person considers the information, does their own research, recognizes the truth in it, and changes themselves.
You just sound nuts, no everyone thinks as you do so clearly I'm going to disagree with you lol what a loser and I'm sure you struggle to meet beautiful women no matter what the age haha
I take back my prior comment. You actually stand absolutely no chance considering the information and evidence given.
Enjoy the shell of what is to come.
You're silly lol enjoy being average and dating average women
@asker Average at what? My wife is a physician. I would say that is above average but, in your deranged prison of how the rings go round and round, I am sure that equates to "average".
You do realize that every reaction you have given strengthens my initial points, yes? All you're doing is proving me to be correct with each and every single thing you say. Your destiny is fairly obvious. I would prepare if I were you.
So when does your wife expire then? You don't know what my major is or career do you so again drawing theory out of your arse. I'm saying that you're average stop using what your wife does to make you look good. Speak about your own conquests and achievements not what your wife does. Again- loser
Disgusting human being lol I don't know what woman would marry you and again you're probably not even attractive and your wife probably isn't either
@asker You are calling me "disgusting" and yet you are the one insinuating that, while having financial issues, flowers and a card aren't good enough for you. Are you truly this unfathomably useless and moronic? Apparently you are.
Regardless of your opinions which, considering both the source and your very nature, mean absolutely nothing much like yourself, you should do yourself a favor next time you decide to go behind your boyfriends back and publicly humiliate him and that is to cover your ISP connection as it was extremely simply to forward a link to your complaint to him directly yesterday night to which a response came through and he is, at this exact moment, reading not just this statement thread but your others as well.
It always amazes me how incoherently stupid some people truly are with how they think being anon here means anything when they are broadcasting their information. Enjoy my gift. Let it sustain you after the breakup.
@asker One final thought. Nothing you say will bother me in any regard. Point being, you are, quite literally, wasting your time by attempting to seem witty and important. I have nothing to prove to a single person and why? Because I have made it in this world, have a successful relationship and, again quite literally, laugh at people such as yourself who I know will fail repeatedly all while they overestimate their significance, appearance, success in this life, and so on.
So you may ask yourself "why" if I don't care did I do what I did? The answer is simple. I don't like you and I don't like anyone like you which is the reason I am on this site. During the offseason I take great joy in exposing people just like you to their significant others for their wanton betrayals and their despicable actions. Call it what you will, remember, not a single thing you say, do, think, or whatever will ever... I repeat... ever... bother or get to me in any manner. Good luck with your failures
Lol crawl back under the rock you came from
you seem incredibly shallow and ungrateful
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You don't understand
from what you have told us
you seem incredibly shallow and ungrateful :3
nothing to understand lol
I guess that's your opinion :)
that is fact :3
you are basing his gift on materialistic value
that is ungrateful :3
I'm really not, that's your opinion and u guess you're entitled to have one so go for it :)
lol refusing to see it huh? :p
understood lol
just curious then
why bother asking a question like this if you have already decided what you are not?
Beause there is obviously more to a person that what they post on here so perhaps being open minded is the best way. Fair enough what I posted gives a snippet into my life but considering the multilayered functions of a relationship you can't come to solid conclusions based on what you have read. As I said you are entitled to your opinion and that is fine. I will take it on the chin :) I'm not failing or refusing to see you view I am flat out rejecting it as based on my reality or perception it isn't how things are
how things are?
you chose to post that snippet ^_^
multitudes of ways to word it and different things to tell us
yet you say;
"I know I sound ungrateful but I saved up for his birthday and got him something amazing that he could cherish forever. Balloons deflate, flowers die so I can't keep any of it"
thus, showing how shallow you appear to be.
O_o
Maybe you're right, maybe you're wrong
What were you expecting? Some expensive piece of jewelry? It's just a bday. Hell, I'm happy if we just go for dinner somewhere. He could hand make me a card and i would be happy. I don't need gifts, but it's always a nice extra. I don't expect it.
I didn't want anything expensive, even if he made me something I would be happy and could see some degree of thought went in to it
Depends what did you get him for his birthday? If it's in anyway girly, then you deserve it.
It's not I got him something that represented some aspect of his childhood. He spoke to me about it loads so I done it for him
Your being ungrateful he could've just gave you a kiss at least he bought you something
Maybe
You deal with it by not being shallow and be thankful that even tho he didn't have much money to spend on you for Christmas that he at least had a lot of heart to think of you. Sure he could of saved up more money, but sometimes it's just not possible to save when their is no money left to save.
I don't agree but I appreciate your opinion
its NOT about the cost! its about the thought behind it that counts! I would be grateful with just a card
You're easily satisfied then aren't you
As someone who has been in a finical situation for a while life makes it hard to save up for stuff, surprise repairs pop up bills come late, banks get things wrong you can get drained of cash really easily. Besides its not the gift that counts its the thought behind it, could he have done better sure was he able to? I wouldn't know I don't know him. But instead of complaining to us you should talk to him yourself he is the one you need to talk to after all.
When you give someone something, don't expect to get something of equal value back. Seems to me it was a very thoughtful gift, at least he remembered your birthday. Guys usually aren't too big with holidays and presents, deal with it I guess?
My last bf took me on holiday for my birthdays, anywhere I wanted to go so flowers are like weeds in comparison
K, well beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If cost is more important than a beautiful and delicate flower, a living thing, then I feel sorry for you. You may be attractive but tour personally is horrid from my perspective. Not that you care, but a lot of people seem to agree.
Well I'm too cute to care ;)
Yeah you're a bitch. I hope he breaks up with you or that you're s troll.
Why would you as a woman call another woman a bitch. You make it ok for guys to think they can do that also and when you're called a bitch someday I'm sure you don't like it. Well, perhaps you could find some other way to insult me instead of calling me a crude name and acting out in a verbal aggressive way.
Anyone can be a bitch. I don't believe in double standards like most bitches would...
You're shallow and ungrateful and sound like a bitch. Just be happy you have a good boyfriend, who cares about gifts.
I'd be happy just to have a gf's company on my birthday. I wouldn't need a gift.
Perhaps you should ask some more questions before you come to the conclusion that I'm a bitch.
I already read all the opinions here and your responses.
I've come to the conclusion that you sound like a bitch. Do you want me to elaborate?
Sure go for it!
"I know I sound ungrateful"
Well that's a relief at least.
You sound like a spoiled brat. Be happy he got you something instead of complaining that's it's not good enough. I feel sorry for your boyfriend, no wonder he left without saying a word. Poor guy :(
You can say poor guy all you like, clearly you're one of those people who settle for less
I dont have to settle, my bf took me to Mexico for my birthday. But I also know a relationship is about two people. Clearly you only care about yourself and your feelings. Poor guy I hope he finds a good girlfriend that respects him and understands that a relationship has two people in it, not just one.
Keeping "score" with gifts is very petty and not very becoming. If you still have the receipt for the gift you gave him, you could frame it so you will always be reminded how much more you spent than he did.
Geez. I don't want anything for my birthday except the company of my special someone.