I have been treated like I am the scum of the earth in the dating world by girls. It has caused me to now over anaylise every single little thing girls do what they say, how they say it, their facial expressions, their actions etc. I am ok until something happens I am not sure of then I think the worst of the girl. Please don't be mean I know there are mean and nasty girls out there but I also know not all girls are like this at all. The problem is I feel I am missing out on good girls because of my trust problem. How can I fix this? Please don't be offended this is not meant to offend anyone. All I am looking for is advice on how to fix this problem. Be nice!
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Unfortunately, it's very difficult and I don't think there is any easy solution to the problem of trust issues. I have experienced this also but not really with dating, more from having friendships end and people leaving or lying to me and just bad experiences like that.
I think it's just one of those things that takes time and it will probably be a slow process. You will just have to take a chance on someone and hope that they treat you well. If a girl makes a facial expression, says something you may not like, or acts a certain way, etc. maybe before reacting, take a few minutes to really think about a girls behavior and think about: is it really an insult to you or are they just having a bad day or did you just take what they said the wrong way? I know it may seem like many girls are nasty or out to get you but that likely isn't true. If you have trust issues, it may just be that your perception of the situation is off and you're seeing something that really isn't there.
So, you will have to learn to control your thoughts and try to see things in a different way. I'm sure there are tons of sweet girls out there you would get along with, sometimes you just have to dig a little deeper to find the good ones :)0
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