I know this question comes up a lot. But im just at a loss here. Im 24, almost 25.. just graduated college. And I've never had a serious girlfriend, just short term relationships with girls/women. And in those short term relationships I've either been played, they lost interest, or knows what. I've been so frustrated with the dating thing, I've kind ve avoided dating and finding women at all for the last year. Part of this was I was trying to get my grades up in school so I kindve shut everyone out for the last year. But now im done, im thinking about facing my frustration and fear again and diving back in. But the more and more these short term relationships fail, the more I assume the next one will fail.
Then there's the frustration of it seems like women only want men who dont want them or are already taken. I get a girlfriend and all of a sudden im a magnet for 5 other women. If your single, you ain't nothing. Then also women seem to fall out of attraction for me when I like them back (not being needy). Why in the hell do people dislike someone that they like finally liking them back?
Then there's the whole is she rejecting me or just playing hard to get? I mistake this all the time and assume rejection and back off. But in a weird way this is some peoples way of saying come closer.
Then, how to turn dating or "talking" into a relationship? How to bring up the conversation? And what do you say?
Lastly, I just feel like im being screwed all the time. Im a good guy, I really respect women, I try being cocky and funny and am charming to some women. But only for the short term. Then they stop talking to me and dissapear into thin air. I've been lied to pretty bad. But other times women I've been with think I was playing them. Which is simply not true cause I knew my feelings for them. I felt played by them. But, now im suspecting that there's a breakdown of communication or something. Why do people break it off when things are so great? Im just at a loss :(
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Ok the good news is Uve experienced bad relationships, how's that good u ask? Now u can look back and see where and what went wrong. I'm not telling u to change ur self but rather look back at the mistakes and learn to understand women
This will help u in the future with approaching and dating, there's no real key secret formula to approach a girl and have her panties drop
What there is, is experience.. Forcing ur self to try and fail.. Fail and Learn from.. And keep doing it till u start to get it right, every time u fail, U'll start to think "why did I say or do that" that's u learning ! Yup
Approach as many as u feel comfortable.. I understand it's scary, why? Because it's new and fear of rejection.. But let me ask u this, are u alone now? Ok, now if u approached her and get rejected.. What have u lost? Nothing right? Back where u were But what have u gained? a bit of knowledge and immunity to the next rejection.
Here's a tip, when u approach a girl. Don't get scared and nervous, how's that possible? Do u get scared and nervous when u approach a female friend? No right? Keep that attitude and give it a try.. U'll be surprised how well U'll play. Also strong eye contact is good but don't be a robot.. Blink once in awhile and break eye contact for a few seconds, too much is creepy0