I'm 19 and a freshman girl in college. I've had a lot of guys like me and I've had small things with some of them but they don't work out either because I don't like them that much or because they do something I won't put up with like drugs so it doesn't really get anywhere. Its hard to find a guy I'm interested in and I don't have a guy I'm crushing on right now which is weird. I do try to date guys that like me when I don't really like them back to see if I develop feelings for them but then I start getting turned off because they like me too much in comparison to how much I like them. I have had a boyfriend before who I really liked but we broke up a couple years ago. I've had so many opportunities with a lot of guys but it just never develops into anything more or progresses. My crushes my senior year of high school consisted of one of my best friends who had a girlfriend and another guy who liked me that had a girlfriend. I need to know if I have an issue or if maybe I'm not ready for a relationship? I hate hooking up with random guys and I really want to find a guy I can end up in a long term relationship with. What am I doing wrong?
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Omggg your like me, i once went out with a guy i didn't have a crush on him as i felt that it would be rude of me to reject him again (yes i did it twice and yes i am really nice) and it was stupid of me, too be honest when you find out by someone your guy friends turn out to have a crush on you its worst sometimes because you feel uncomfortable and if they ask you out and you reject them your friendship gets ruined. What i did when anyone ask me my crush i told them he was in a different school or country (which he is by the way I move a lot so i have lived in many different places) so no rumors about me liking someone in my school would spread and also LIVE YOUR LIFE!! :D i feel confused sometimes like i am sometimes not even sure if i have a crush on someone I think i do and then i dont. The only time i did and i knew it for sure was when my best friend had a crush on me and i did too (we never admitted we just knew from other people but in the last he confessed) but i had to move so i left the school and now he is dating my other best friend but i think he still likes me because he says - I love you and i miss you and he also confessed the time he was dating my best friend which was after i left also i feel more guilty because i think my other best friend's boyfriend had a crush on me and now days after realizing that my best friend make sure i stay away from him, i am fine with that :( I guess maybe because i still miss the one crush, the one love i actually felt, that i can't think of any other boy.
Your in collage if you dont have anyone in your mind then just concentrate in your work so that after collage you can achieve a great career, you mite find someone later. Whenever i had a crush on someone or a ex who moved on from me, just remember that there are many fishes in the sea, surely you will find someone of your like :D and there are many other guys probably better. :D just go out make friends, study, travel do anything you want, enjoy single life0