Me and 'the guy' have been seeing each other for about 3 1/2 months. Stuff seems to be going okay. We are both from different countries but live in Italy now. I am learning Italian but it's nowhere good enough to even try and have a conversation in. He's Spanish and speaks good English but I can see it's a struggle sometimes. We had a chat the other night about 'us' and he said that he wishes I could see the person he is in Spain because he's a lot more talkative and outgoing when he doesn't always have to think about things to say.
I've noticed that he's on his phone not constantly but a normal enough amount... but rarely texts me unless I message him first or it's to arrange a time to meet etc. When we hang out, there's a lot of silence between us... it's not awkward but I'm a natural talker so I feel the need to fill silences and text a lot. I want to hang out and watch a movie or something but he says that he needs to watch them with subtitles. But I really don't care about subtitles- they don't bother me.
I guess... is this just a language thing and is stuff okay? It seems to be okay.
Or is it something to be concerned about? I was just wondering if anyone had been in a similar situation.
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It's definitely a language barrier.
If I were dating someone that hardly understood me... I would barely want to talk either.
Continue to show an effort in learning his language.
He needs to do so as well (try to become more fluent in your language).1