Ok so I want to know what it takes to be attractive to guys. I'm fairly overweight (although the shape of my body and proportions help me look more evened out than 'round') people always day 'you're not fat or you're not that big' but I feel horrible and yes I'm gyming and eating right to lose the weight. I know men are mainly into looks, like that's what attracts them but I'm not ugly in fact I think I'm pretty like really pretty. I have a good hour glass shape, I'm smart and a really nice person. Of course I have many other shortcomings but I would consider myself a catch but I know my weight kinda puts me in the 'no go zone' and I mean weight loss is a journey and it's true that I like tall well built guys with muscle but does it mean I'll never get my 'ideal' man in terms of aesthetics? I need to wait till I'm thin to even have a shot at being with an attractive guy? It's just so disheartening to see girls bigger than me walking around with guys that are attractive and I'm like why can't that be me or girls who I don't think are that pretty (beauty is subjective I know) get more attention cause of their slim bodies? It just slays the self esteem you know? So I want to know how I can be more attractive? Is it really confidence? I dress well, wear make up and take good care of myself.
- Physical appearance is always importantVote A
- I would date a nice girl even if she was overweight and trying to lose weightVote B
- I would never date an overweight girlVote C
- Confidence can get you any guy you wantVote D
Most Helpful Guy
Like everyone say... Confidence is the key.
Like you said, people tell you that you are evened out so it does not put you in the no go zone (definitely no). And as for the "attractive" thing, you said you are working on it, and every guy has his own taste (you cannot please everyone).
Personally I would prefer an "evened out" over a slim girl.
Last point. . - when love happens, when he falls for you, he would not see what your weight is1