How would this be done if not talked about directly? How do guys do it?
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Usually, you don't have to pick a point. Others pick it for you... Someone comes up and says, "why don't you bring your boyfrie... err... are you two dating, I didn't want to be too forward." Then you meet your "BF" and ask him, "hey, I was talking with _______ and she asked if we were BF and GF and it got me thinking... what are we?"
Often, you don't get to choose when you decide your are dating. That's the funny thing about it. When you deconstruct it, dating is really playing pretend as if you were in a relationship. You do things couples do like go on dates, kiss, hold hands, etc until you discover whether you like being a couple at which time the answer to that question of "what are we doing" is "I'd like to think we are a couple" or something like it. Remembering that this is the purpose of that first month or two dating makes understanding the question of defining the relationship easier to comprehend.
In my case, my current GF and I were in the same feminist group together for two years. She had a crush and I never knew it cause she hid it. When she stopped hiding it, we concealed our dating from the feminist group just because neither of us wanted any fallout in case things went south. After about a month, we started thinking others would conclude we were dating and we would eventually be asked about it so we chose to define the relationship. We ended up making it public when her roommate, whom she invited, started flirting with me. In that respect, like I said, others determined when we chose to define the relationship.
In your case, your parents will likely make the determination for you. They will say, "Oh... isn't he/she a sweet boy/girl... are they your BF/GF" and then you kinda mumble away embarrassed until you feel compelled to ask.
Trust me, just relax and about a month or so in, you will get that urge to define it because of something or someone saying or doing something and you will know what to do.
Hope that helps =)1
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