I used to be crazy desperate to find a girlfriend just because I'd never had one before. You know the type. So I took others' advice and focused on myself for a long time, put the idea of "having a gf" out of my mind, but you know what? I'm STILL NOT GETTING ANY ATTENTION FROM GIRLS. This has only lately cropped up in my mind again and started to bother me a lot, because I'm just getting older (I'm in college now) but I guess I'm still not quite good enough.
I'm very good looking (many people, male and female, have attested to this), in shape and hygenic, very well educated, creative, funny, well-mannered, generous, and I genuinely want to be friends with girls. I have interests and talents, I don't come off as a creep, and I know how to be genuine and to befriend people (well, just guys I guess). I'm mildly shy, but not so much that it's awkward.
In fact, dating and girlfriends wouldn't bother me so much if I could just get some girls to be my friends. I guess I just want some female attention, even if it means that I won't get to date for the rest of my life.
Argh...Am I just not good enough? I feel horrible about myself. I'm incredibly bookish and enthusiastic about intellectual things. I think maybe that's why girls aren't interested?
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Obviously you have not spent enough time focusing on yourself. If you had we wouldn't be reading how you are so bugged by not having female friends, or about how you value their opinions and perception of you more than your own. It's fine to be single, it's fine to have girls not like you. What is important is that you are happy by yourself. You are the only person that is going to be with you your entire life, so you better start liking him. The girls aren't interested because you lack confidence, lack self-eteem, and are desperate for their affection. Treat them like anyone else, they aren't more special than you, and you shouldn't devote more attention to them. Love thyself, and they shall come I know from experience.5