So there's this girl I've been seeing off a dating site who really likes me, but I don't feel the same way. She's got a good personality and she's cool, but I don't feel the spark and am not really physically attracted to her. She texts me a lot and asks me to chill and it's not that I'm annoyed or that I think she's clingy but again, don't feel the spark.
Not trying to sound shallow and it's not like I have very high standards but I just can't force myself to be attracted to her. I'd be ok being friends with her but I don't wanna lead her on and cause drama because I've been led on multiple times and it hurt like hell, especially when I got rebounded.
So how do I nicely tell her that I don't feel the spark?
On a side note, that's usually how it goes. Usually the ones I like, don't like me back and the I don't really like the ones who like me. Again, I'm not picky but I wouldn't date someone just for the sake of being in a relationship.
I swear it's a double standard with this shit. It's like if a girl I like ignores 2-3 messages then I gotta stop talking to her and move on or else I look like a creep or a stalker but if I ignore a girl, they'll message me more and want me more.
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Perhaps if you treated the ones who 'Don't like me back' the same way you are Treating the Ones who do here, dear, you may have more luck... you may not be 'Picky,' however being this apple at the top of the tree with this One as you are, she is finding you a chase and a challenge and trying her Hardest to bite into you.
Right off the bat, you both started with Obviously exchanging phone numbers. And perhaps there were other things you may have said or done without even realizing it, that has brought on her own 'Sparks,' leading her to get attached and Attach herself to you like a clinging vine... it happens all the time.
To put this to bed and make yourself come clean as a whistle, you don't need to come right out and toot your own horn by saying Anything that would actually 'Cause drama' More in Store, but tell her in lite and semi convo, whether it is face to face, through text or even on the other end, that you just happen to notice a lot of girls are online looking for a relationship and you hope they find who they are looking for... me, I just like being friends right now with everyone and I am glad I found you as a nice friend...
No one says you have to keep in constant contact with her all the time. Putting her on your pay no mind list from time to time, will give her a helpful hint that without you having to hymn nor haw, that there is nothing More to your relationship and that it is what it is, friendship is all.
Good luck. xx1
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