Is it not true that I won't know unless I try?
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I was with my ex wife 25 years. More then half my life. I only went on dates with 5 women before meeting my ex wife and never had someone that would be called a girlfriend. So being single at 45 took a lot to handle. The divorce was not something I wanted even a little. Then I found out she was cheating at least at the end of our relationship if not the last 2 years. So then I tried to date WAY too soon. But I learned a ton and I did learn something from every date I went on. But I was a bit scared. Then when I would get to the 3rd or 4th date I was worried it might work out and got scared. It was like I wanted to be in a relationship but then I really didn't. So I stopped after about 3 months (mid march until beginning of June). Tried again in August for about 4 dates but still not ready. I waited until I worked with my therapist and knew I really was ready and because I wanted to date and not any other reason. I met someone about 3 weeks ago. It is going pretty nice. I am not nervous or scare like I was before. But that has a lot to do with knowing I was ready to date. But also, I am being very cautious and not letting myself get swept up in things.
You really do have to get out there and do it before you know what your going to feel or what it is going to be like.0