The guy that I have been loving since I was a teenager is now going to be a single man. Let me give you a little background. We have known each other 10+ years and a few years ago we realized that we had mutual feelings for each other. I was not ready to commit to him and told him so. We (meaning me) had some issues to deal with. We tried to be friends, but even that was strained. Last year, we discussed getting together. He told me that he still loved me, but went and got a girlfriend. He was dating her almost 6 months before I found out. He continued to talk to me, but things were different and he was distant. He would not tell me what was going on, but I found out.
Basically, I thought that he treated me wrong when he could have just told me in the first place. We have never dated, but the feelings are still there. I have not seen or talked to him in over two months. I see him for the first time and he informed me that he is going to breakup with his girlfriend and he has asked me to stop by after work so that we can talk. He kissed me and then he called me later on that same evening. Was he with her and realized that he wanted me more or is he trying to use me? I really am tired of my feelings being toyed with. I need some opinions on this.
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I agree with the other girls that there are some issues there, but I wouldn't hold that against him per say. This whole situation seems hopelessly romantic to me. The two of you have loved each other but the timing was always off so it never seemed to work out. However, that never affected the feelings that you had towards each other. Of course I suggest that you use caution now that he is just getting out of a relationship but don't let your fears of getting hurt hold you back. If you do, you'll always be saying "What if? " because its obvious that the feelings you have for him won't go away so easily. If it doesn't work out for whatever reason, its not like your going to lose much in the bigger picture of things because you've survived without his "friendship" before when it got tainted by your feelings for each other. And keep in mind that there's so many fish in the sea if it doesn't work. You have nothing to lose, go for it. This just may be the love of your life! Good Luck!