My boyfriend has an 18 month old baby girl. And people always tell me to stay away if he has kids. Why? Im not taking care of her, he is a good papa. And she is a beautiful girl. Why is it so bad to date a man with a kid? He is not messing around with her mother, in fact he fucking hates her. And if we do get married, i dont mind being a stepmom to her. what is do bad about a man with kids?
And he shares her, she doesn't live with him.
Funny thing is, he and the babymama hate each other so much that they can't stand to see each other or talk on the phone. Her friend drops the baby off cuz they hate each other so much. This is good to me. I know he isn't messing around with her.
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There's nothing at all wrong with it. In my opinion, it takes a very special person to date someone with a child from a previous partner and (if you were to marry), treat the child as your own. The child is completely innocent in this situation.
Those people telling you to "stay away" are just silly. The only possible reason I can think of, is if maybe they think the guy will always have a thing for the mother but, as you said, that's clearly not an issue in this situation.1