So I just saw a bunch of corny pictures online of guys crying or like getting all excited and sentimental as they watch thier bride walk down the aisle. I can't possibly imagine a guy ever actually caring about a girl in that way. Do guys actually fall in love and want to make that person happy and care about thier well being or do they just get attached in other ways. Like I am head over heals for my boyfriend but not a single piece of me thinks that he or any guy for that fact even knows how to love or care. I Couldn't imagine him giving a single actual fuck about my emotions, opinions, or well being. I've just never actually seen a guy do or say anything that genuinely showed that he gave a fuck. I'm not trying to be an ass hole. I've just never seen it. So I literally can't imagine a guy like saying that he loves someone and actually in his heart wanting them to believe it because he means it. Please no hate responses. I want real talk. Because I'm not trying to be mean and I don't have a complex about any of this. I'm just wondering.
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I think a large part of the issue is that we live in a culture that shames men for being opening about feeling. Many men do grow up being emotionally detached as a result. Other men and women are to blame for this cultural issue.
I'm not trying to be rude, but I feel like your post (unintentionally) actually compounds the issue. By telling men that you don't think they could love the way women do, some men will have their feelings swayed. A lot of women have these stances, and it's dehumanising. How does it make you feel when men say women are, I don't know, overly emotional or irrational? Sorry, this was a bit of a tangent and isn't meant to be taken as a jab at the Asker.
Anyways, back to the point, there are plenty of guys that are capable of feeling the exact same way you do. I'd say there are three categories -
Men who are detached.
Men who feel but are ashamed to show it.
And men who feel and don't really care what other people think.
The latter being the least common. The former being drawn to casual sex and such.
I'd say the vast majority of men looking for relationships that are anything more than casual sex are most likely perfectly capable of loving the same way you do.
Why don't you see guys saying things like I love you? Probably because in public spaces, guys will make fun of guys for saying things like that. For the majority, it's humiliating. It shouldn't be, but that's our culture. I think in private spaces people are more open about that sort of stuff.
I had a close friend who I really cared about. I cared about her feelings, I cared a lot about her opinions, it was actually mainly those that I was attracted to - she was bright and opinionated. She actually introduced to me to a lot of gender politics which I find intriguing. I cared about her wellbeing, too. Unfortunately this was never reciprocated.
I fear I might have rambled too much in this post and not really addressed the question. But whatever. I hope this was interesting to somebody.1