I've been single for almost a year now (8-9) months. During this time I gave myself time to heal but I actively tried to find possible boyfriends as well. I tried the whole online dating thing and giving out my number sometimes. But I just came out disappointed each time. The guys I've met just want to use me or aren't emotionally ready for a relationship because they just got out of one or had their hearts broken. I kind of gave up on the whole dating scene. I was starting to feel like there's no one out there that will appreciate me and be good for me. Should I just not pay guys any mind? Will God send the right man to me with out looking for him at all? Or should you be active and look for a partner? While single should I not date or ask guys on dates? I'm starting to feel like I'll never meet a guy who will love me for me.
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Both are actually needed. If you're idle, you'll get passed by and the only guys that'll show interest will be very dull for you to date honestly.
I honestly know the pain of the online dating thing to but I don't feel that you should give up on dating in general, but I do suggest skipping the online part of it. I honestly notice guys and girls struggle with it.
Guys struggle with having no middle ground in terms of women to date. They're either a mess in the sense that they're alcoholics and drug addicts. Or they're so uptight to the point where they will only date a model looking guy with lots of money, etc. There's many profiles of girls making checklists at the ends of their profile of requirements and it is gross.
Girls struggle online with guys just wanting to hook up and not having a lot of good quality guys looking to do anything with their lives. Many girls have told me how many of the guys are basement babies hooked on video games and such.
Plus I noticed many people talk way too far ahead when it's online. You'd think they were gonna start picking out names for children within 5 dates.
Anyways, I think you should just try meeting people in places you frequent but in a very casual way. A simple friends first without thinking anything of romance can get you very far. Make friends with guys maybe.0