I need honest answers once and for all! Its something I've always wanted yet no girls date me for more than a few weeks. They dont text me at all, or show interest besides on the date, they will hold hands and kiss though. I've gotten plenty of dates from online and online only. Girls dont approach me in public, so thats not an option. I grew up with self image issues because of the way i was treated by girls in highschool and college so dating isn't easy for me. I still have a lot of fears just being around girls. I did get my first date when i was 24 but later she said she just went out to be nice. I got my first kiss when i was 25 though but that was only because she asked me. (She later tore me apart anyhow) Should I be doing something different with the girls I date? Im afraid because this happened so late in my life i am unable to learn "the language" of dating. People tell me to lower my standards and I have, I dont know how much lower I can go though. People get dates and even have sex with girls they just met, how does this even happen? (Not that sex is the only thing of course, but come on). I will post my dating profile so I need some feedback and honest opinions on what maybe I should change or do better. Girls would I be date-able to you? Something has to be the problem...
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So in terms of the profile, it reads like a resume. Especially the first part, it doesn't really show your personality... it seems very much like what you think women would want to hear and less like a real person. The What I'm really good at part, is too vague and quite serious sounding... You seem to take yourself too seriously.
... warm summer nights, starlit skies... is cheesy, and seriously the human condition, seriously...
Basically it's too much of you trying to be deep and explain the essence of who you are on a page.
So my tips for the page are to 1. Keep it light, even your picture is serious looking. 2. Try to put your sense of humor in it rather than just writing that you're sarcastic. 3. Be specific with things, don't just say you're good at music and history...
Like as an example, things i'm really good at: Predicting the endings of horror movies, making a vegan cheesecake that tastes better than the real thing and misquoting the lyrics to most if not all songs.
Also 4. sometimes being a little self deprecating can help.
5. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. I was the same, a really really late bloomer, had my first date at 25. Now i'm in a great relationship and really happy, but i had to not take it too seriously and learn that instead of trying to make it an objective or all about completing the task, i should instead see dating as just meeting new people and a fun experience. Simply put a way to have fun, that attitude really helped me out.5