hey guys and ladies im 21 and this girl is 17 but her dad hates me what should i do by the way i knew her for a few years now please help?
- go for itVote A
- stopVote B
- Wait intill she is 18Vote C
Most Helpful Guy
Hmm. For me, being in good with her family is important. I wouldn't not want any tension or animosity between her parents and me. Things like that actually causes issues in a relationship that will lead to problems and fights between you and her, trust me! Her dad hates you probably because of your age but I also suspect maybe you didn't give off the greatest first impression either. 4 year age gap really isn't that bad. You can certainly legally date her no problem. It depends on the legal age of consent when it comes to sex and if you have sex that becomes the legal question. Most dads are very loving and protective of their daughters and it can be hard to watch them go off with boyfriends that are a bit older simply because they aren't ready to see their little girls all grown up. He hates you because he doesn't know you. You need to try to re-establish your relationship with him. He could simply hate you because you never man-ed up and simply walked up to him, shook his hand and introduced yourself to him. Maybe what he needs is for you to have a simple man to man conversation and tell him that you care deeply for his daughter, you respect her and will do nothing to ever hurt her. One the other hand, some dads can just be complete jerks and never want their daughters to date anyone, period. If it becomes too much work to maintain the relationship and you have walk on eggshells and sneak around, I would date someone else. You have to remember that since she is only 17 she still has to obey her parents rules. They will be watching over her until she is older or moves out. So like it or not you have to play nice with her parents to get the relationship to work. So if you feel that it is too much work, maybe just be friends for now and try to date again in a couple of years.2