In February I was out drinking and bumped into this guy I found attractive. Yesterday we met up again and I found out he was a drug dealer, I kind of find it sexy because he's a bad boy.
Do you think I should even bother with him? Also would you date/go near a drug dealer?
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Define "drugs." I mean, I was [hypothetically speaking of course, if the Man is watching] a "drug dealer" for many years, that's how I paid for college. Hopefully people are enlightened enough now to stop calling weed "drugs", you can't even compare it to harder drugs. So if he sells weed, who the hell cares. If he's selling coke, or dope, or meth or something, that's more serious, in that the legal consequences are much harsher, and there's a higher incidence of violence related to the trafficking. Also, the likelihood that he's a user of whatever he sells is pretty high, so it depends how you feel about that. With weed, the worst thing he'd probably be is lazy, no harm there. But some of that other stuff changes your mental makeup and behavior. I've seen people be able to handle using cocaine a little here and there, but straight up addicts are generally bad news. Heroin and meth are a real problem, you're usually all-in or all-out with those.
If you like him, see what's up. But if you're solely attracted to the "bad boy" image, then I'd say that's a pretty misguided reason to go after someone. If he's slinging hard stuff, proceed with extreme caution. I just don't like the negative connotation "drug dealer" gets, so I like investigate a little further before making decisions on people's character. To me, you can sell drugs and I'd view you as a businessman if you do it a certain way, or I'd see them as ruthless thugs if they go about it another way. But do recognize that if you're at his house and the jakes kick the door in, you're going in too.4