I met a guy online 1 month ago. We slept together on second date. From this time he texts/calls everyday and we see each other every weekend and sometimes during the week.
We have talked about what we wanted and I made clear that I understand it's too early to say we are a couple but I am not interested in friends with benefits relationships.
At first I was feeling good in this but some things bother me:
the moment I go out of the room he starts looking at his phone, texting etc. he also brings his phone to the bathroom with him and seems bothered when i look at it
he is online anytime i connect on the dating site where we met
he is not generous and always splits bills for everything, only once he took me to a fancy restaurant but his friend was working there he probably had a deal
last weekend i told him i sometimes feel a bit used and he got mad and called me to say it was not the case
do you think he is a liar? am i paranoid? i am not used to this kind of relationship at all.
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I have to ask, not to be snarky, but because I've never really understood this: If you aren't a couple and you aren't friends with benefits , then what are you? I'm assuming that when you say you're not a couple it means you're not dating exclusively.
If you're not dating exclusively, then I assume the two of you are continuing to date other people. It certainly sounds like he is, since he's always on the dating. It sounds like you are too, if you're on the site as well. The fact that he brings his phone with him to the bathroom doesn't indicate anything to me. I do that too. And the fact that he gets bothered when you look at his phone makes sense. You've been dating for a month; that doesn't give you license to pry into all of his personal information.
So, I guess my question to you would be: In what way are you being used? If you haven't told him that you want to be in a relationship with him, and you haven't taken yourself off the market, then... what exactly has he done to use you? I can understand that you might want to be dating exclusively, but if that's the case you have to tell him. It's possible he'll say no, but it's also possible that he's not shutting all of his doors because he thinks that he shouldn't.0