I've had a crush on this guy for almost a year and i'll say during that period, he had made advances but my dim self at the time was super shy and was brewing with low-self esteem. We've been on 2 dates, see each other at least twice a week (cause I work with him) and message each other frequently. Quite recently, I went over to his' and we cuddled and stuff. He told me he's see'ing another girl but according to our mate, he doesn't see her often or something. We talk and banter during the weekdays and gives me squat all during the weekend (WHAT THE ACTUAL ****). So, I made it pretty clear for a while that I had no more interest in him: ignored his messages, giving him the cold shoulder and he showers me with attention. As soon as I respond to him, he slowly reverts back to the douche he was once again. I find him checking me out and pay attention to minor details (e. g. I trimmed my hair, I'm wearing new tracksuit bottoms) and gets jealous whenever I mention another guy or talk to him. At times, he can be super sweet and caring and will do things that goes out of his way. But I can't help but sometimes feel I'm "the other woman". WHAT DOES HE WANT FROM ME? I sometimes just wanna kiss his left cheek. With my hand. Clenched. Preferably with a brick. Full swing. Yeah.
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You already know the answer to your question: ignore him.
What happens when you ignore him? He jumps right back in, full pelt and has to have your attention. Once he has your attention, he relaxes and goes back to him usual self.
He is showing you who he really is (you have called him a douche) but your ignoring the warning signs of his push/pull behaviour.
Don't be cuddling a guy that is seeing another girl even though your friends say he doesn't see her that much. Who cares how much he sees her as the fact is he has told you he is seeing someone. He is sharing his emotions with someone else so you are not top of the tree.
Take your foot off the gas and hold back from this guy as he is playing games with you.1