So my bf and I have been dating 4 years and he is 27 and I 24. We are very serious in that we know we are going to marry each other. He only gets a weeks vacation time and I wanted to do a romantic week get away just me and him since we never went away together before. Well his family informed him that they want to do a family vacation just him and his 2 brothers mom and step dad and not invite me but he can't take more then a week off. He says to me he is sorry but he is going with his family. I'm hurt for a number of reasons first being that he planned this vacation with me first second being he is 27 with a serious gf and he is a grown adult and his family is excluding his serious partner and he is OK with that. The third being that it seeks weird to me to be going on a family vacation and leaving your partner at home as an adult. When do those things stop 20 30 40 50? How doni express my hurt to him. Should I re think how important he views me?
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It'll never go away. When you get married a man is suppose to leave his family and cling to his wife. Wife comes first then this parents. Based on this though, looks like he will always be that little boy that loves going with mommy and daddy. And you probably wouldn't of cared if he dropped your romantic week to go with his family, IF YOU were invited. But you are specifically excluded. Those were the mothers exact words probably and he listened to his mommy, his mommy still controls his actions. Can only imagine how the wedding is going to be, she going to control that too? What about thanksgiving? She going to get mad when you guys decided to have it at your house instead of hers and she throws a fit and then your husband can't say no to mommy... Good luck with your future mother-in-law. I think his behavior is totally selfish and not normal in a 27 yr old who is supposedly "in love". I'd be worried, you'll probably see more of this in the future. He might just want alone time though, to have fun on vacation, if you know what i mean... BE HONEST with him. Tell him the complete truth and how that hurt you. If he doesn't invite you or care then you should be worried. Dont attack him either, be the victim when telling him your feelings.1