Last month, My boyfriend of two years revealed to me recently that he is no longer sexually attracted to me. He explained that he loved me and wanted to be with me, but his attraction toward me had dimished. Essentially, I have gained nearly 20lbs and have not been as active as I once was, which I was aware of at the time. I made a commitment to him to focus on my health, even though I was devastated by his words.
That was a moth ago and I have been more active and lost five pounds. I confronted him about his attraction level to which he informed me still did not exist. The second time around was harder to hear than the first. He told me he did not want to break up, that I was the best GF he'd ever been with and that he loved me. I am still heartbroken and I'm not sure how to move forward.
If he has a problem with how I look now, will he ever find me attractive again? And really, should I stick it out with someone who is probably disgusted with me when I'm naked?
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation and I understand why you feel devastated. But I also think you should look on the bright side here. He was honest with you, he still loves you, cares about you and wants to be with you. I know you want to feel sexy, but isn't the other stuff more important?
It has been a month, you've been active and you have lost 5 of the 20 pounds. That's an excellent start. If you can maintain that kind of willpower, then you will soon be in the best shape of your life.
You need to keep in mind that not being sexually attracted to you does not mean that he thinks you are disgusting looking when you're naked.
My advice to you is to keep doing what you're doing. There's no guarantee that he will become attracted to you, you should keep trying anyways. It will be worth it in the end regardless of whether the relationship lasts, because even if you break up you will be in great shape and your next boyfriend will think you're sexy. But give the guy a chance at least. He didn't dump you because you gained weight, I don't think you should dump him for being honest.0