I'm 26 never had a legit boyfriend, only 2 flings. I'm a beautiful plus sized woman and I dress well but to show I respect myself. I wear lots of dresses of all sorts and overall I look very feminine usually. However, it seems guys quickly try to get me to get physical with them immediately. Why do guys always go immediately for sex and how can I get their approach to change?
How to get around guys only wanting sex?
What Guys Said 7
-Maybe they don't look for a long term relationship coz they don't imagine themselves with ur plus size.
-You're a friendly person and they feel too comfortable with u soon, and that you'e easy to get. so play a little hard too get.
-Be friends for a while choose better people, who can look for the person u are and ur beautiful face :-)
- Also, when u start to talk in the beginning always give the impression that you are looking for a little more serious thing then just casual.
You can change their approach by changing your approach and maybe loosing a little weight won't hurt. you should do it for ur own self anyway. healthier lifestyle sake lol.
good luck :-)1
tell them "if you have sex on your mind only, beat it dude"2
You can get their approach to change by changing the environment in which you meet them. (i. e. stop standing on the corner of a busy street shaking your shit).
I'm joking. = P
But seriously, you're probably going to bars late at night, in which case, yes, that is generally the theme. It's presumed, at least by males but I'd say quite a number of females too, that the bar scene = the fuck scene.
Haii~ because they're not the good type of guys, they get provoked by your dressing style so, you know, maybe you should pay more attention around and look or get to know who you think it's a good guy, like if i met you, i would try to know you first, even i know you are beautiful^^0
Tell them there isn't a chance. Maybe even threaten them if needed since the kind of guys that go straight for sex tend not to take "no" as an answer. Also remember not all guys are like that.0
It sounds like you are meeting them at clubs and bars which would explain why you are running into those types. Unless I am wrong, then I don't know, you have to look at sex differently, it shouldn't be something to "give." Just something you want. I think the answer is more sex actually, date more people, 3 at a time I say, and keep rotating until you find one who is on the same level...0
What Girls Said 5
Not all guys are after sex only. But you also have to understand how what you are wearing may be interpreted by others. I'm not saying to change that, I'm just saying you can't control how others interpret things and if they think they you are wearing particular clothing to encourage advances from men, then they will make an advance. You can either articulate your boundaries and intentions, or change what you wear. But some guys do just want sex but some also want a relationship, don't assume that all men who want to be physical are only after a sexual relationship.1
Guys think about sex a lot, like every five minutes. You can show that you're a good honest woman by making them wait. They won't like it at first but if they stick around to get to know you, that shows integrity.2
Ignore them and move on1
Stop wearing tight clothes and don't let guys talk to you sexually before they get to know ya.0
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