If a guy is a downer, girls say "I don't want to be someone's babysitter. I don't have to put up with your shit!"
If a girl is a downer, girls say "I have my flaws, I'm just human. I need someone who can handle me!"
I was talking to my girlfriend about this, and she just realized what a stupid double standard this is. I'm a natural downer(childhood bullying), and although I'm trying my hardest to overcome this train wreck of a problem, I always have her support when I have my emotional crisis. I do the same thing back to her when she's down.
I mean, how do you girls explain this? Why do you rather find someone who fixes you, rather than try it yourselves?
And please, don't use the "be a man" argument, even men have their issues, men aren't made of steel(although we shouldn't use it as an excuse not to improve ourselves).
Most Helpful Girl
It's definitely a double standard, I think in general it's just more difficult for a man to have someone to talk to, have feelings openly or an outlet because they are expected to "be a man", I wish that would change for men.
Being around a person who is down and whiny all of the time is extremely annoying though, male or female.0
Most Helpful Guy
It's only a double standard if you accept the rules of her game. It's called being selfish and there are enough selfish people to go around for all of us. Laugh at them and cut them lose of they want to play that game.0