"You approach every girl at our school, you're desperate"
or "you approach every girl at work, you're desperate" (work = part time at a grocery store, nothing big and professional)
Can someone tell me why people think it's a bad thing to hit on every girl you find attractive and why it's labeled as desperate? Do these betas not realize how often girls flake/whatever. Am i supposed to look at a hot girl at school and say "Oh well I've already hit on enough this week, better not approach"
I understand approaching genuinely ugly girls as being desperate, but every hot girl I have class with/see/work with? Heck yeah im gonna do it.
Most Helpful Girl
Possibly because you're approaching EVERY girl in the hopes of getting something. That's what some people think.
I don't see it as desperate automatically. Maybe a wo/man doesn't care who they approach and if someone interests them, they go after it. I don't see it as a big deal.
I'd only see it as desperate if a wo/man is doing it for sex or because they're tired of being lonely. How can you know that--though--if you don't know the person doing it?
So I don't judge.
Most Helpful Guy
How do you approach, what do you say?
I'm social and talk/get to know girls all the time all over the place. Then I'll date them as I get to know them and find a girl truly attractive (personality-wise, as well as physically).
Some guys just go after every girl thinking real life is like Tinder, that's definitely desperate.
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