so i dont understand: there's a guy i like. We've been on several dates now but except for the first date, im always the one asking him out. I dont mind tbh, bc this way im in control and i can see him whenever i want it. and he seems to be comfortable with this pattern. He even told me -litterally- that whenever i feel like seeing him or going out with him, i could always text or call him. After he said that howevrr, i waited and waited for months for him to call me, just to test if he would chase me, but he didn't. After a long time, i finally texted him again, askung him out and he agreed and so we went out together.
Im confused, shouldn't the guy ask out the girl what does it mean when the roles are reversed? Guys, do you like it when the girl's in control?
Dont mind my English brw, im not a native.
Guys, reversed dating pattern?
What Guys Said 2
First off, I'll say that the whole "guy should ask the girl out" thing is completely stereotypical. The first girlfriend I had asked me out for most dates we went on. However, if you literally waited for months for him to call you to ask you out and he didn't then he probably sees you as just a friend. But if you were doing all the obvious bf/gf stuff (kissing, flirting, hugging, etc.) than you might want to consider that he's cheating. He could just be really shy, but if you went on dates multiple times than I think he would've called you again after awhile or at least wondered why you two weren't going out anymore. I'm gonna be frank with you and say that not asking him for months was pretty stupid if by the point that you decided to do that it was quite clear that he wasn't asking you out. Because if he isn't cheating and is just really shy than by that point he could feel like you've forgotten about him or don't care about him or your relationship which could damage your relationship in the long run.0
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it is nice for the girl sometimes to make plans because it makes us feel like we aren't completely desperate - the case might be reversed here - he doesn't want to seem desperate so lets you organise dates0
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