I am saying this because I did all of this to become a better man and now that I have, I have become really shallow and bitter. I guess the insecure part of me is just angry. Women didn't want to date me when i was skinny and short but now it seems every other week I am sleeping with another women, who wants me to commit. As a result I have began seeing women as objects. Since it is completely unfair how a woman can expect me to be tall, muscular, and wealthy but men are getting shamed in the media for expecting them to be skinny, curvy, smart, and other things. I feel constantly judged and I am shamed for judging back.
I have now began expecting women to be almost perfect because if she wants me to be almost six foot then I can expect her to have a huge ass. If she wants me to earn a lot of money, which I do, then I want her to be EXTREMELY sexual. I feel like my bitterness is consuming me and I want it to go away but it is just so hard. When I take women out on dates I NEVER act bitter because if I do then I won't get any ass.
As a result I am now able to hide what my real intentions are. I will normally take her out on six dates- 8 dates, have sex with her and leave, since I can afford it. Ladies please give me your perspective. I want my bitterness to go away.
To recap I am now 5'11, have a degree, earn six figures, and i didn't mention I speak three languages fluently, cook very well, very muscular with a six pack, can draw 3d images (artistic), can sing well, etc
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I know it's not an identical situation, but I'm someone who changed my appearance rather radically through weight loss. At my highest, I weighed 265 lbs, and at my lowest, I weighed 140 lbs.
While I understood that more people would be attracted to me if I lost weight, actually experiencing it was... wow. Men actually paid attention to me, wanted to date or hook up with me. But it wasn't just that---women were nicer to me and wanted to be friends with me, whereas before I had difficulty making friends. Strangers were nicer. Wait staff and sales staff in restaurants and stores were nicer and more helpful to me. Expecting that people would treat me differently didn't prepare me for actually experiencing it.
And yeah, it's easy to feel bitter about it. I couldn't help but think that the guys that were interested me would have never given me a chance when I was bigger.
And if you talk about it, a lot of people will say stuff like, "Yeah, but would you want to date a fat man?" (pr3ttybr0wn asked you a similar question). I understand why people ask this, but it feels like they're making the assumption that you're just as shallow as other people. But that question didn't help me at all because, yeah, I would date a fat man.
I'm thankful that my boyfriend is someone who has been with me while I was fat and while I was thin. If I started dating someone who only knew me when I was thin, I don't think I could help but wonder if they would have given me a chance before I lost weight and assume that they wouldn't. I think I would worry a lot that if I gained weight again (not that I want to, but I've struggled a lot with my weight), they would break up with me.
I don't really know what the answer is. I don't think it's fair to assume that all women are shallow (plenty of women do date men who aren't rich, aren't tall, aren't muscular)---just like it wouldn't be fair for me to assume that all men are shallow (plenty of men do date overweight women).
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