Most Helpful Guy
What is wrong with being selfish sometimes? Like most things in life whether or not being selfish is good or bad is a matter of balance. If you aren't going to look out for yourself no one will. We all need to put ourselves first from time to time. It doesn't matter if that is selfish or not, its just something that has to be done. This is YOUR life, and you are the only one that has a right to decide how you live it.
Most Helpful Girl
Doesn't respect me / is controlling. If I am certain of either is leave immediately. The only question is whether I'm sure not what to do if I am sure. Like honestly think it is impossible to be around someone who does not even treat you as well as you treat yourself and remain sane... You're living a double consciousness.
What is it that make you think he doesn't respect you and how did you put your life on hold and how is he controlling?
It will help you falsify what to so if you specify exactly what it is you think is going on -- not just what you feel though of course that is important.:)