So my fiancé and I are fighting. Today we were at a family party. His cousin was introducing his new gf and when they get to my fiances mom he says right in front of his me his fiancé this is my #1 women my mom and then just says and this is my fiancé and says my name. It took me q minute to register because u was thinking there was no way hr seriously said I was his second best right in front of me but sure enough I heard right. I was really hurt that he would say that in front of me. We live together share everything and are about to get married and I'm not his #1 women? Like not only does that hurt me it is embarrassing to my women hood that he said that in front of all these people. I feel like its a slap in the face. I was trying to let it go but I just couldn't and later on that night my built up hurt came out when my fiance asked me to cuddle with him in bed and i snapped and said I don't know I mean wouldn't you rather cuddle with your mommy after all she is your number one women and we were off with the arguing. I mean yes I know that was an immature way to handle my hurt but like I said I was holding it in and it cake out. How can I maturely talk to him about it in the morning without a fight?
What a slap in the face?
What Guys Said 7
I'm sorry to say this but to many, our mom is the #1 woman in our life. You don't have to necessarily be a mamma's boy, but she did raise you for a great part of your life so of course she's going to mean a lot to you. He shouldn't of said you were his #2, that was a mistake by his part, but i really don't agree with you getting angry with him for loving his mom. You mean a lot to him, but sadly a mother will always hold a place that can't be surpassed by anybody. If i were you i would apologize for acting the way you did, and explain to him how it made you feel, maybe he will be able to avoid any more hurtful comments like that.2
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Wow really that's what cause the fight? So you basically mad that he holds hid mother about you? Sorry to say but that's very childish and if it were me I'd honestly be rethinking the marriage (not that I'll ever get married) if something so insignificant upsets you enough to cause a fight. It's his mother for crying out loud. I'd understand if it was a women who wasn't a family member, but that wasn't the case. My advice is to swallow your pride and apologize because he did nothing wrong.5
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If you really had a great relationship with your mother, it's really difficult to remove her from the #1 best women in his life since she's been there since he was just a little sperm swimming towards the egg.
He's been more years with his mother than what he's been with you, probably double, I would even say triple.4
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Apologize for the outburst (even if he doesn't deserve an apology, just address your own immaturity not his). Let him know that you were really hurt and sad that he said that. You really care for him and you just want him to feel the same way about you.
A lot of the times it's not what you're trying to say that's the problem it's just how you say it that causes fights.0
So someone who birthed you clothed you and raised you isn't important I see0
What Girls Said 2
I find it too that he 'Slapped you in the face' with Mom and his remark Of-----#1 woman. He never even mentioned You, a Soul mate, whom he boards with and beds down with and someone whom you are supposedly making long terms with, and with This, Yes, I find he humiliated you with and right in front of bro's newbie and this made you look like you had egg on your face, as Mother hen stood there, a crown on her Own... Crown.
Maybe this is an eye opener that you should take to your heart and not to the alter... not just yet anyway. Do some soul searching. Think to yourself of what kind of relationship he has with Mommy Dearest. Is he a Mommy's boy? Is he going to drop everything Every day and rush over to her every time the phone rings or she comes a calling for her sonny boy? Don't be so fast to
I married a man out in Egypt who I learned real quick was Mama's First born baby boy. He put our marriage second, me 'Second' as well, and Her in front of me and Us whenever she would come ringing and hollering. I called him a "Gopher" that would run for this and run for that and knew he would never leave her side until the day she died.
Good luck. xx0
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