Would you date a girl with a "slut" reputation?

[PiuBelloAmante]

So i met this girl, and really like her, she is super cute and funny........BUT and its a big BUT When my friend saw her he said "i saw you talking to........Damn bro the thirst must be real!" And i was like "what do you mean?" he was like her nick name is "Easy......." I also know someone who had sex with her a few months ago..... So should i give her a chance? or does she even want a relationship? this really bothered me..... i am confused, and dont want people to think i have no standards or something..... I like her a lot lol! i just feel hesitant cause i like 3 girls at the moment and am having difficulty choosing and dont want them to judge me for taking this girl on a date, i like her and i want to but....... :/ i like her the most.... UGHHHHH sorry haha.... hmmm! *sigh* HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[BuchitaBuchys]

I am kinda disappointed in you :/
Why do you care about what other's have to say?
This is kinda why I don't date younger guys. They care a lot about "peer acceptance" to the point any negative comment a friend says will influence their attraction to a girl.

How do you know he's not just spreading rumors?
I was called a slut before I even had sex, even my first kiss. I had never even held hands nor hugged a guy, no one had never seen me naked prior to me turning 19, and in middle school/high school some people were claiming I was a slut. Strange. It was mostly when I stood up for my friend cuz they were making fun of her for masturbating, I told them what's so bad about it, I do it too, everyone does? And I got labeled a slut for about a year or two.

With my ex bf, some guy on fb messaged me. I thought he was an old friend from way back in my childhood. But he turned out to be crazy and a huge liar. I told him to stop harassing me. I ended up ignoring him. He then told my bf I was a hoe and that he fucked me and I was easy and that I cheated.
I had never met this man in my life. He was just mad because he wanted me to cheat on my bf but I told him no and to leave me alone.
It turns out that it was a "set up" cuz my ex bf's ex gf wanted him back and she found out about me. So they were spreading rumors that I was a cheating slut when I had never done anything.
It all fell apart when I told my ex to tell him to describe my naked body. To this day, my ex is the only guy to ever see me nude. I have scars and birthmarks that I have been ashamed of for a long time and if you have sex with me, you pretty much know how they look and where they are. The other guy couldn't describe any and that's how my ex knew he was lying.
I ended up breaking up with my ex though cuz he ended up cheating on me with that same ex gf who was trying to break us up cuz he had sex with her and got her pregnant.

Point is, sometimes, many times, guys will lie and make up rumors.

[PiuBelloAmante]

I just... I don't know buchita... I am afraid to be cheated on again...

[PiuBelloAmante]

Thanks for you opinion :) I am still giving her a chance :)

[BuchitaBuchys]

Are you a saint yourself?

[PiuBelloAmante]

No but I keep most of my interactions private and I am selective I am not perfect but I protect my privacy and reputation

[BuchitaBuchys]

So are you saying you're willing to date a slut as long as she keeps it secret? Lol

[PiuBelloAmante]

Hmmm, i dont think so haha! i just want to keep our intimacy private for the most part... I dont consider her a slut, i consider her promiscuous, As long as she is only promiscuous with me, i am cool haha!

[BuchitaBuchys]

If she was only promiscuous with you, it wouldn't be promiscuity lol

[Red_Arrow]

Buchita, I always considered you scars and birthmarks to be beauty marks. I never saw them as anything bad. Oops, I wasn't supposed to let that out, was I? jk I was surprised hearing about your experiences in school. I would have thought that kind of stuff would have disappeared in the last 50 years. I guess not. Kids, and even at that age this proves they are kids, can do the stupidest things. Reading about this happening with both you and @musicbrain5 brought back memories of thigh school cruelties. It did bring back a good memory, though. A girl I was really "smitten" with back then was named Charlotte, and many people called her "Charlotte the harlot". I never had reason to believe that and I knew her closely for years. After she married, she messed up her life, but I don't think any of what was spread in high school was true. And even if it was, she was not that way while she an I dated. Fond memories of her. (and no, we did not have sex)

[BuchitaBuchys]

@Red_Arrow You haven't seen me nude lol And yea. I just think people throw the "slut" label around too liberally. Anything that's even remotely sexual, will have a girl branded "slut" for a long time. It's ridiculous but that's how primitive lots of people are nowadays.

[Red_Arrow]

I have to seen you nude. But I don't expect you to know what I am seeing in my imagination. ;-)

[PiuBelloAmante]

i guess what i meant is, i want her to express herself sexually, but only with me!

[Ozanne]

I hate it when people butt in to other people's business and try and say things to put someone in doubt of their feelings. Your private matters with her belong to only you and her. Your friend may say what he likes to look out for you, and perhaps he might even be speaking the truth, but in the end, what this girl has done in her past is PAST, and that's IF he's telling you the truth. Furthermore, no one is perfect, and many guys have got colourful pasts that many people seem to ignore, but when it's a woman it turns out to be this big problem. Let's just say she WAS promiscuous before you. Sometimes a girl does things because she's been unhappy or she's been desperate to find a guy to make her happy and each one has let her down. Maybe she just liked sex? Maybe now, after getting all of this out of her system she's met you and she's now seeing what self-worth is all about. You can both teach each other something and fall in love while doing that. It could be you that makes her change how she's viewed sex, and it makes her a better person. There's also a possibility that your friend is full of shit and jealous that you've got a chance with her and he doesn't, or he's jealous that he'll lose his bro-time with you. There's also a chance that girls have been jealous of her and talk of the town got to him and he's passing along nothing but rumours. You just don't know, but the bottom line is whatever happened was the past and if you both like each other, just shake it off and allow yourselves to be happy and see where it goes. The worst that can happen is it doesn't work out, right? So why lose out on the time you have now, this happy time of liking each other and getting to know each other go to waste because of some stupid things you're being told that in the end don't matter?

[PiuBelloAmante]

Thanks so much this was very helpful... you are right even if its true, the past is the past

[emmabee11]

I just wish guys would get over the fact girls want to experiment and have sex too, we are HU-MAN lol i wish guys would understand that, we aren't that unsimilar at all, sure.. we look more feminine, have tits and our private parts inside than out but everything else is the same... we grow hair from purberty, we develope hormones (just like guys), only other difference is we have a period and we may flirt a little different but we all want the same thing. Your friends sound like pigs and are judging her for having a sex life... she are being mean and you should re-consider them as friends, be your own person and make your own choices, don't ask your friends or anyone who you should date, me a man and go for whoever you like, when you like. I want to slap your male friends.

[emmabee11]

Your a cute guy but id be put off by the fact you ask your friends who you should date

[PiuBelloAmante]

No it has nothing with her being sexually active, its just that everyone knows about it :/ i like privacy too you know... I like her a lot and i am gonna taker on a date but, i just dont want to be played again, the last girl i dated had a flirty reputation and cheated on me... i guess i am just nervous...

[PiuBelloAmante]

oh and he is more of an acquaintance

[emmabee11]

That's not her fault then, someone was obviously spreading rumours, most likely it was the guy she slept with, i doubt she would of went and told the entire world about her sexual experience like that, id not listen to anyone no matter who they are, i've never been in a relationship because of people listening to other people, i get picked on a lot so people always have something bad to say about me because of jealousy so they watch every guy i talk to then ether prtend to like them then ignore them turning him against both of us or they just spread rumours, i doubt the guy you know knows the first thing about her, so id get to know her for the real her not what he or anyone says she is. People lie... constantly to get what they want, so it's not right to listen to others, make the decision from your own heart, it does not matter what you expect from a girl, just get to know her for her.

[PiuBelloAmante]

you are right... I was just very nervous, and self conscious, but i liker enough to think other wise i ate lunch with her earlier, hopefully next week i can get a lunch date =)

[emmabee11]

aww good luck dude i hope you likes you too

[Caitlin_M]

Yeah, it's pretty ignorant for guys to expect girls not to want sex as much as they do, and/or with as many different people. And it's just plain wrong for someone to think that a girl shouldn't ACT on her sexual urges JUST because she's a girl.

[PiuBelloAmante]

@Caitlin_M I dont expect girls, to not have as much sex... I have sex regularly, but i am very private about it I just hope if we do, end up dating or having sex, the whole world won't know, or be in our business Also i dont act on all my sexual urges, no one should, i would be having sex with everyone if that were the case lol! There is something to show for choosing partners carefully

[emmabee11]

If they do just tell the lot of them to get lost, your clearly not surrounded with good people, i know how you feel really... nether am i

[Anonymous]

Hell yeah. I'm a slut man... I've learned that girls too wrapped up and worried about actually enjoying are outclassed by the girls who don't give a fuck.

Everyone likes sex, but not too much, unless it's happening to them which is then great but otherwise it's a big no-no and nobody has really sat down to figure out why they think like that...

Or some convoluted bullshit like that. Sluts have this "aura" of fear and dread surrounding them that is much different than how they are. Get to know one of "them" and you'll find that they don't live up to the hype and they're not much different than anyone else.

[PiuBelloAmante]

thanks! yeah, i realize that now i am gonna take her out next week =)

[Opinion Owner]

Good stuff

[Metlahead]

Being a slut is pretty much a pre-requisite for me... I exclusively date sluts, is what I am trying to say. I find myself asking the same questions when a girl ISN'T slutty... "should I give her a chance?" "I am confused" "I don't want people to think I have abandoned my standards"

But you know what? I give them a chance anyway. Because if I like a girl, even if she isn't slutty, that is no reason to turn her down. It doesn't define her as a person, and it doesn't change what she means to me... So despite desiring the absolute slut, I will still date the virgin mary.

[PiuBelloAmante]

I like this view, you are right, i am very self conscious of my image, and i shouldn't be that way, i am gonna give her a chance, next week i will take her out! Thanks this really helped!

[Metlahead]

Awesome, I am very glad to have helped. Good luck!

[GirlsLie]

Dang, the down votes are real lol Do you or would you have a serious relationship with a "slut"?

[PiuBelloAmante]

@GirlsLie i dont label any girls as sluts, that what others have called her, she is promiscuous i know that, but i got the point he was trying to get across That just because she is promiscuous doesn't mean she isn't the right girl for me, "It doesn't define her as a person, and it doesn't change what she means to me..." thats what i took from this opinion as the point he was trying to convey

[Metlahead]

@GirlsLie are you asking me or PiuBelloAmante? If you are asking me, yes, of course I would! Also, what do you mean by "the downvotes are real?" sorry, I just don't understand this expression.

[GirlsLie]

I was asking the Opinion Owner, sorry. Thanks for answering though Asker. I was just curious if "date" meant long term relationships as well and I was just pointing out how many down votes you got when you really didn't say anything bad lol

[Metlahead]

@GirlsLie Ah, I see. Thank you for clarifying.

[GirlsLie]

I just found it unique that someone preferred "sluts" lol. Normally I would think most men would worry about a long term relationships with them but I guess anyone can cheat, so what's the difference.

[bubble_tea]

lol thanks for giving the virgin mary a chance to prove her inner mary magdalene to you.

[Metlahead]

@bubble_tea Lol, I can't tell if that was sarcastic or not... But you're welcome?

[bubble_tea]

lol no, it's not :)

[ralphie]

Look. Any guy looking for an easy piece of ass we all know who the slut/whores are. We just have to be careful of timing since although women like to think their pussy cleans itself. sperm live for 5 LONG days in there. Causing the odor of fish. So if she smells of the sea, your getting a full load of chlamydia cum or both. I just don't want to be the poor guy that has to explain why mommy is dieing of ovarian, uterine, cervical cancer or infertility. But hey, they usually swallow so just hit it and quit it. Then move on to her slutty friends so you can compare them with all your friends. They will do the same about how much you suck or tastes or if you actually showed emotions.

[peachblossomluck]

Have you seen the movie Office Space? "She gets around, like a record! You'll be making the O face for sure!"

[PiuBelloAmante]

No but lol! oh geez! i hope i dont get myself into trouble...

[peachblossomluck]

It's a movie about a guy who hates his job. The slut part is one of the many hilarious subplots. You should see it.

[PiuBelloAmante]

I will check it out thanks! =)

[LittleSally]

No one really knows if it's true. . .
You won't know until you talk to her.

Maybe your friend was just jealous? Or she refused a lot of men and they created this rumor to destroy her reputation...

[PiuBelloAmante]

I don't know if its that elaborate lol I do talk to her :/ she is very flirty, but fun and sweet

[LittleSally]

Haha Well your best bet is to go out with her and find out. =)

[musicbrain5]

Who cares? Your friend is probably just spreading rumours, which is usually how it is. People used to call me a slut even before I had kissed anybody.

[PiuBelloAmante]

You are right, i need to just see where it leads and block out the outsiders...

[Ihav2fart]

You LUT!

[PiuBelloAmante]

Stop it! @Ihav2fart Musicbrain is idea lol she has an awesome husband! lol! she is living every girls dream lol married a hunky talented musician

[Ihav2fart]

I don't even know what a lut is. :(

[PiuBelloAmante]

@Ihav2fart, you are lucky you are the GaG resident stud muffin! lol! you can get away with anything on here! She is not a lut! I don't know what that is either but it doesn't sound nice lol!

[Ihav2fart]

I am not! She's an awesome lut! It sounds positive to me! <3 the musicbrain!

[musicbrain5]

@ihav2fart: lol, a lut. Typo? :D Yep, married to another musician who is making money through other means at the moment. Go figure!

[Ihav2fart]

Typo? :O I would never call you that other word! #AMusiciansLife

[Bob5555]

Unless you've had a similar amount of experience in the sack she's probably going to chew you up and spit you out dude. Definitely don't make yourself any more emotionally attached than she is.

[Alexzktra]

If you really liked her, you wouldn't care about petty rumours such as this- c'mon man yr overthinking. Just date her if you like her, don't if you don't. Doesn't need to be any more complicated than that

😉

[Alexzktra]

In answer to yr title question, yes if she liked girls.. [and me] that's not gonna stop me pppshhhftt men are weak

[PiuBelloAmante]

i am gonna start dating her but i am looking for a gf and i am sure she will wanna be with me, like that I don't know what that has to do with being weak?

[Alexzktra]

Caring too much about outside opinions is a weakness, in my opinion like I'm a huge dyke I don't give a fuck what people think of my relationships but guys seem really hung up on stuff like so many insecurities it's amazing..

[PiuBelloAmante]

I care about outside opinions yes, and people would be foolish too completely disregard those opinions i dont let it control my life, but often if many outside holds the same opinion, those things they say and those opinions might hold some truth She also reminds me of my ex... who cheated on me... so yeah thats why i am hesitant and as far as security goes, i do have insecurities, but so do most people, Men and women, my image is important to me, so i need to protect it.

[Alexzktra]

Oh, well, if it's personal to you that's different; but what comes outta other ppl's mouths ain't yr business in my opinion and should be disregarded but you do you ┐(ツ)┌

[Creole_Flavor]

He could be lying because he is jealous and just because he knows someone that slept with her does mean anything. I'm not sure why a man would lie on his dick let alone another one's but it happens a lot so I would go with your own judgment of this girl to make your decision and don't listen to what he says.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Its a little more complicated, those 2 guys are completely separate lol!, i asked them both, about her because they are both pretty popular/well known here... and know a lot of girls... I don't know i am just nervous, because i want her as a gf, but she might not want that :/ i am gonna take her on a date and see how it goes...

[Creole_Flavor]

Well just ask her and see how it goes good luck :)

[Ferretman21]

Then go out with her. Who knows, maybe your friend just wants her for himself.

[PiuBelloAmante]

maybe... i did ask multiple people all said the same things :/

[Agrojag]

I wouldn't, no. You'd have to be okay with comments like that frequently as well as people probably mocking you more blatantly. Plus you never know how loyal a girl like that would be. I wouldn't expect anything serious with a girl like that. There are better out there and they're worth waiting for.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Hmm, i was having that same feeling.. :/ but she makes me feel so good haha! hmmm, i will see what happens, just have to date her and focus on the moment =) she might just want hook up and thats it... sigh... Women!!!

[Agrojag]

Tell me about it. Girls like that aren't relationship-material. They're for fun and getting some experience. If she makes you feel good, take that for what it's worth but don't let her make a fool of you.

[PiuBelloAmante]

you just dropped knowledge on me bro thanks!

[Agrojag]

No problem. Guys got to look out for each other. Best of luck.

[Yourtheone]

If you never try then you'll never know! Give it a shot you will eventually know how she really is.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Yeah i am gonna message her tomorrow morning see if she wants to go go-karting or something lol! need date ideas :/ ?

[Yourtheone]

What about movies and a nice dinner?

[PiuBelloAmante]

i usually do that! but people think thats a bit too serious... i might just go that route actually thanks!

[Queen_naki5]

People are always going to talk, but you just have to see for yourself. Don't ever listen to people, you'll almost always be disappointed.

[PiuBelloAmante]

i think there is truth to this =) thank you =)

[Queen_naki5]

Good luck

[NateInAk]

Don't let someone's reputation be TOO influential, firm your own impression.
However, I would keep a look out for behavior fitting the reputation, just in case.

[PiuBelloAmante]

definitely bruh

[abundantlyrich]

Good luck, I hope you don't get a coldsore.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Haha! i am actually a little concerned about that... she did hook up with this dirty frat boy guy so... ughh! i really hate college! lol!

[JackKerouac77]

If you never give someone a chance, you'll never know.

[PiuBelloAmante]

yeah, i am giving her a chance, i was just a bit worried... :/

[rjroy3]

If you're dating around anyways, is dating a girl with a slut reputation really a bad thing? Especially since you're doing the same thing lol. I don't care for the slut term, because it's used as a pejorative term

[PiuBelloAmante]

i do date, or talk to many girls, but i have a different reputation... I don't know, it hought it might be a bad thing... I dont like that term either and would never use it to describe her, she is promiscuous and flirty, and i think they exaggerate her "easiness"

[rjroy3]

If that's the case, then I wouldn't let it bother you. Unless there's something specific in her past you think you can't get over

[R3d_Anonymous]

Yes I would. Nothing wrong with a "slut".

[Eugene]

I'd just use her until I find a decent girl (that involves pretending to date her). If she fucks someone on a side I probably wouldn't care as long as I fuck her as well nearly whenever I want.

Once she outlives her usefulness, I'd dump her a for a proper girl.

[PiuBelloAmante]

The savagery thats what my boys suggested to me but i just can't do that :/

[front2back]

Every woman has a "slut" reputation at some point.

[PiuBelloAmante]

this is true...

[Ihav2fart]

Sure, I don't mind as long as I feel she could stay faithful.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Thats what i am saying! I don't know what she wants, maybe she just wants sex, i have no problem with that but i really am looking for a gf

[Ihav2fart]

You're at the age where most people are beginning to learn to accept themselves. Go have fun and learn something!

[datgirl]

If you really like her than nothing... nothing should be able to get in the way of it. Despite the rumors. let it be. If men can go sleeping around with hundreds of women than women can do the same and they shouldn't be judged about it. But in my honest opinion I would not want to date a guy that is too sexually active.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Yeah, its not a woman issue for me, its just i am nervous lol! i think i will really fall for her :/ but if she just wants to be single and free, that will make me feel sad lol! its complicated ughh! She is pretty active , but i think its a bit exaggerated =) time will tell

[datgirl]

Well, what's making you nervous? Take it slow don't fall too hard yet or you'll end up hurting yourself (I'm not saying that she'll hurt you or anything)

[PiuBelloAmante]

yeah i usually fall hard, i already get a bigillion butterflies everytime i see her, if you saw her you would know what i mean she is the most adorable/sexy thing!

[datgirl]

Haha I haven't felt that in a long while lol. And aw, I bet she is. When you going on this date?

[GirlsEatGirls]

It sucks knowing many guys can say they already had her. But if you really like her, go for it

[PiuBelloAmante]

Yeah.. but i am still gonna date her, hopefully she will become my gf =) but I don't know if she just wants to hook up

[GirlsEatGirls]

Good luck

[ralphie]

One or many mans trash is another man's treasure