So this happened to me, again and im not a 100% sure how to "recover" from it. I have never seriously dated anyone or been in a relationship, and i always meet guys that only want sex(but is very obvious), or i met guys that either pretends they are intereted(but only want sex) or i met guys that want something more, but im not interested in them.
Anyway, i met the kind that only want sex, but pretend they really like me mroe often the other two kind of guys. And to be honest it kinda effects my confidence, because i feel like they are saying im only good for my looks. I know that its not my fault that thsoe guys dont want to date and that i shoulndt take it personal, but like mentioned it happened, again. I waisted several weeks on this guy, and im dont know what to feel. A part of me wants to take revenge and make him think he can get sex from me, but im not going to give it to him. Another part of me just wants to ignor him move on and find another guy.
But the problem with the second option is that i never ever meet guys, even if i start looking for a new guy it will take me ages to find one, and in the mean time im obviously going to seek attention from him, which again is going to make me depressed because i KNOW he's not going to change... I need som help!
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"being used" implies you believe you were a victim, that is not the right attitude to have, even though you may very well have been the victim you still need to put the responsibility on yourself to not victimize yourself. That is how you start sulking and driving yourself into a corner and create baggage that down the road creates a self-fulfilling prophecy and you will be used again. My guess is that you have already been doing this, and it is why you said it happened "again."
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