I've recently been dating someone and the relationship, or whatever it'd be termed as, is going great. He asked me to be his girlfriend a week ago and I politely declined but agreed to be exclusive, just without a title so quickly until we can make sure that we're ready to be that serious with each other, realistically. We complement one another very well. We're both supportive, understanding, easygoing, and difficult to irritate. We have great chemistry and we have plenty of similar hobbies and are both pretty open to trying new things. Since the first date, people assumed us a couple and were shocked when we told them that we were on our 1st/2nd/3rd date because we're very in tune with each other and fall into step easily. On the contrasting end, I'm more of a scholar and he's more of a do'er. He breaks me out of my box a little and helps me to live more...while he knows he can rely on me for well thought advice. (Although he doesn't lack in advice in the things he's better at. We just have two different types of learning really.) What we seem to have, at least at this stage, is a strong foundation for a worthwhile relationship.
But, we're getting perhaps a little...too close. Intimately speaking, I'm starting to become far too interested in going to bed with him. I'm not concerned so much about how it would directly affect us, but I am concerned about forsaking my devotion to God by doing so. More and more I'm becoming painfully tempted to get more sexually involved...the chemistry, as a result of our compatibilty is really starting to wreac havoc on my senses. I don't know what to do. :/ I'm fine to answer any further questions to those wanting more info.
Most Helpful Guy
You will not be tempted beyond what you can bear. But you have to ask if he's worth marrying. You also need to ask why you feel you need to consummate sexually so bad. What do you risk by not doing so? Ignore the "did God really say?" rationales of other posters below. Take my word for it... thinking you can "fix it up" after the fact more often than not doesn't work.
This is a time to learn his true character - and for him to learn yours. Bumping uglies will quickly become a thing unto itself, and will distract you from the real goal because you'll want more and more of him at the expense of all sound thought.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
I think God will be fine with it, because you genuinely care for this person. I would think what would be "sexually immoral" pertaining to Christianity is someone who screws everyone for their pleasure.
Now, I'm not going to judge anyone who does that. But I don't think that's what you're doing so I feel that it's okay.
If anyone wants to correct me for being wrong and show me where it says "sex before marriage is a sin" in the Bible, feel free. But I take it to mean people who open their legs to anyone they lust after.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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