Most of the time, if the guy I am dating hurts my feeling but I know his intentions were good, I can easily let it go. For example, if he talked about his female sporty coworker who is does crossfit, runs marathons etc. I can let it go, because I know he is not implying that I am fat, I should workout more, or that I am not fit enough, he just thinks she's neat for doing those things or something like that. (If he constantly talked about her, and made comments about her body, etc...ok, that's a different story).
The last guy I dated however would say subtle rude things that hurt my feelings. I knew this wasn't his intention but I found it dickish. I have since broke up with him for multiple reasons, but these are some examples. After a heavy petting session on his couch, the next day we were reminiscing about it and I asked him if I was too loud. He said, "Nooo" and then he added flatly with a straight face. "Unless you were faking it". He probably meant it as a joke, but I found it insensitive, since I don't have much experience and does he really think that I am the kind of person that would fake something like that?
2nd example - He constantly remarked that my hair smelled really good. Once at his place (we were alone) he commented on it, so I casually sniffed a piece of my hair to see what it smelled like (Haha - it's my hair, I can smell it if I want to). He frowned and said, Why did you do that? That's not very classy.....Ouch.
In both of these cases, I felt like speaking up for myself, but I didn't want to make a big deal over something so insignificant...
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You forgive him because he didn't intend to. Dont get revenge its the worst thing u can do. Forgive seven times seventy. Mathew 18:21-220