if not, why do you think they can't find someone?
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I'm sure many do have unrealistic standards but from what I do notice about a lot of single people is that they constantly have a "dealbreaker." This could be anything from being a single parent to drug use, etc. I know one guy for years and he's way old and he's single because he's extremely overweight and unhygienic.
Now overall I do feel the unrealistic "standards" issues are more of an issue with females over males. I see guys having minimal dealbreakers and even bending their dealbreakers hoping to make things work. The most they'll get criticized for is wanting a good who looks good and even then, I see plenty of guys with girls who don't fit the "good looks" yet the guy's perfectly happy.
On the other hand, I used to read all these profiles of girls outright stating that guys need a high end college degree, a good car, and even demanding specific haircuts, etc. These I'd see right up on their profiles yet outside of a bland statement like "I have a great personality" they don't say much about themselves. You'd think they were a blank slate. So basically guys are being told they not only need to look good, but they need to have all these other things or they won't even be looked at. What seems to start out as "standards" basically turns into greed and self entitlement and guys are slowly being turned away. When I went back to check the dating site years later out of boredom, they were still online and active.
I know it sounds like I'm generalizing guys and girls here but these are just what I've seen overtime. Obviously... "everyone's different."
On the contrary I think most people who are single not by choice are single because they aren't out there actively looking for someone.
With so many people out there you'll have to be dreadfully unlucky to not find someone who matches your gears just enough to grind a tad to keeps the sparks up without the teeth start flying. (mechanic joke again).
Anyway , yeah. They weren't looking hard enough or looking at the right place me think.
Why am I single?
Can't say I've really been out and about looking for someone , so I suppose it's result of my laziness lol
I think a lot of people have unrealistic expectations about a lot of things, so it only makes sense that when two people get together there is friction that they maybe don't know how to deal with. Especially in 2015, where there is a lack of relationship paradigm to "follow."
The only other thing I would add are the people who are less out going, in order to meet someone you have to, you know, meet people... and it's easy to over look the quiet person, also harder to get to know them. It's to bad really, in my experience those are often some of the most interesting people.
I think that contributes to it. But I do think that underdeveloped social skills and character are the primary reasons most people involuntarily remain single.
i don't think i have unrealistic preferences or ideas but i do have preferences and i am picky on who i show interest in i think i am to young to have to settle for someone i feel is less then what i want in a person i feel a girl should have good morals and should be very beautiful if only in my eyes she does not have to be a genius but she has to be smart enough to have a intelligent conversation with me
No. Human concepts mean nothing in the face of biological realities.
Naw they could be ugly, not had a/the CHANCE encounter yet with their potential SO, have a bad personality, shy, waiting for their potential GF/BF to just pop up in their arms etc the list goes on and on i1127.photobucket.com/.../...om-add-text%201_2.gif
How can they FIND what they aren't LOOKING for? is the better question and most people are single by choice IMHO
I don't think so, even the girls I don't really want turn me down.
I think it's just being unattractive. (Incredibly awkward, short and less than masculine facial features - girls call me 'cute'.) Anyway I'll keep trying...
For some people, that's definitely the case! Some people are so obsessed with self-centered, shallow 'preferences' that they eliminate possibility in their life to outrageous extents. They close doors of opportunity their own selves because they are being critical of another's genetic make-up.
I think it's one or more of these:
1) They're really shy/don't approach people
2) They don't know where to find other singles
3) They're aiming too high for what they are (EX: only approaching busty, fit, pretty woman while they themselves are unfit and a tad homely. Both m & f do this)
4) They think the universe will find a mate for them.
This is coming from someone who was on dating apps and sites for 8 months, messaged up to 100 men, went on several dates and was finally able to get a serious bf in late December.
Because finding someone can be hard.
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