I was told by a particular member on this site that apparently if you are in a relationship with someone, it is absolutely unreasonable to expect them to want to have sex with you, because ...well, you might know better.
I personally believe that if you choose to be with someone, you actually plan on having sex with them down the road, rather than just giving them half-hearted affection while being repulsed by their physical proximity.
So I am a bit confused why it is so unreasonable to expect sexual interaction from your partner. Apparently it makes you be a scum of the earth and a disgusting person.... why? How is it any different from expecting to be hugged, cherished, loved?
If you cannot do that, why take the place from someone else who would actually care about you? Both emotionally AND physically? And someone who doesn't think of connecting with you as a chore?
- YES, I do believe that if you expect your partner to have sex with you at any point in time just because they are your romantic partner, then you are an assholeVote A
- Actually, I disagree. Sex is a biological need, and therefore it is unreasonable to refuse to have sex with your partner, as it causes them emotional and physical distress.Vote B
- Actually, I disagree. People show their love through physical intimacy, therefore sexuality is essential in a well-functioning relationship. If you love them, you will want to have sex with them.Vote C
- Actually, I disagree. Romantic relationships are different from friendship only in that there is also sex involved. No sex is not a relationship.Vote D
- Actually, I disagree. It is the woman's duty in a marriage to satisfy their husband's urges to prevent them from cheating. (religion says so!)Vote E
- Actually, I disagree. If you plan to have children down the road, she will eventually have to suck it up and have sex no matter what.Vote F
- Actually, if your partner is against sex with you so much, you should just find someone else.Vote G
Most Helpful Girl
Wanting a sexual relationship in and of itself doesn't make you entitled. However, I do think that if you feel like someone "owes" you sex for whatever reason, you're an entitled asshole. Having a romantic relationship with someone doesn't automatically mean that there must be sex. Now, that doesn't mean it's wrong for you to break up with them because you don't think your respective perspectives on sex are compatible. If you want sex in a relationship, and your partner doesn't, then break up. This is especially important because there are some people who are asexual and don't want to have sex at all, but still desire romantic relationships. Those relationships are still valid, and those people should still have the chance to be loved.3
Most Helpful Guy
Lol I'm going to go out on a limb and assume the gagger who said that was female. That word gets thrown around a lot by them which is especially funny since they are often just as entitled but in different ways.
If you expect sex everytime you want it yeah it could be entitlement. However expecting it to be a somewhat regular occurance I think is perfectly reasonable. That's part of the reason why you got in the relationship in the first place.
When you enter a relationship and take yourself off the market, you are agreeing to only have sex with your partner under the assumption that they will actually have sex with you. Otherwise you're just close friends and might as well just end it and find someone else.
I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who views having sex with me as a "chore" or like they are doing me a favor. There should be mutual desire.3
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