I am 20 year old guy who just happened to grow up with old fashioned and romantic traditions in relationships (opening a door for a woman, pulling out a chair, romantic dates, maybe some ballroom dancing, general chivalry, etc.) I have taken my fair share of bullying over the years over my personality but I am totally confident in who I am and I know that this is who I was always meant to be. Now at this point you may be wondering why I am asking for opinions of my personality if I am completely confident in who I am. Well of course I am always curious, given the general lack of respect that men today give to women as well as many posts I have seen on here, what women today think of a respectful, caring, and old fashioned guy. Im not putting women on a pedestal or letting myself be a supposed "doormat", but I just very much appreciate the old fashioned romance for my relationships. I have always had anxiety with approaching women because I would never want to be seen as some kind of "creeper", given there are indeed a lot of creeper dudes out there. In approaching a woman I would only want to be myself, saying hello and maybe giving a nice compliment (to be clear, since many people will jump on this because they always do, I am talking to them in THE DAYTIME on my college campus). Maybe after some nice conversation I would ask her on a coffee date to get to know one another. And if all goes well with that, maybe I plan a nice romantic picnic around sunset somewhere nice on campus (if thats too much for a second date, maybe I could plan something simple and fun and save that for later ;) ). I'm just trying to give a decent description of who I am as person and , for girls, as a potential match (at least in terms of personality). I am aware of all the people who spend their time on this site really bashing people for who they are, but Im just curious to your honest opinions, girls, of old fashioned guys like me. :)
Most Helpful Girl
Good for you! It's good to be yourself. Some women can take chivalry as being creepy but that's just the way the world is now. I'm all for being romantic and old-fashioned. Just remember love is the main thing. Will you still be chivalrous after a bad fight, or after something she does that annoys you? If you do, its rare and a great trait to possess. The best thing you can do is be yourself, be relaxed and give the girl space to decide.1
Most Helpful Guy
I think it's good. If a person gets offended by your actions, it's on them. You're just being who you are.
Side not, have you seen the movie "Old Fashioned"?1