OK so my bf and I have been together for 4 years now. He is going to be 28 in a month and I'm 24. His mom is very overbearing and I don't know if it will always be that way or not. For example we were at his grandparents house for Easter and somehow we all got into the subject of winning the lottery and we were talking about who would be the first to find out and his mom was like of course you better telle first right in front of me. Like who cares what is the order he tells as long as he tells her at some point but whatever. Another example was he got offered a job down south and when he called her to tell her she was like aww I'm sooo excited for you did you call me first and he was like no I called Danielle first which is me and he said she was all butthurt that he called me his own gf that he has been with for a while before her. Like again who cares it isn't a competition he eventually told her. I don't know I just think she is very overbearing as a mother of a 28 year old it isn't like he is 16. She also calls him every single freaking day and asks nosy questions about his life. She puts her nose in our relationship all the time. For example around this time last year she made a comment to my bf implying that I use him for rides because I don't have a license which isn't the case at all I literally walk every where. I didn't think that was something that is her business to get involved in he is a grown man and what goes on in his relationship is between him and I not him me and his mother. So my question is does she seem overbearing to you guys or am I overreacting? If so how do I bring up my concern to my bf? We plan on getting married so we are very serious.
How do I bring this up?
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Maybe your bf should bring it up to your mom if he has a problem with her being overbearing. Or, if you are the only one with the problem, then confront her about it. If you two plan to get married then you'll have to be able to talk to her about things like this because you would become her mother-in-law. As much as it may seem overbearing, it is normal for some parents to want to know everything about their child's life and call them every day and want to be the first to know things. It's just who they are and they want their child to make them feel important. This kind of behavior might not stop unless she is confronted with the issue and even then, it is really up to her to decide whether or not to stop.0
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