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Holy crap. Where is he from? I'm not even joking, that is like... almost exactly detail by detail how my very first boyfriend who abused me was. He constantly accused me of cheating and would call me a whore/slut/bitch, etc. He would scream at me, punch holes in walls, and isolate me from everyone else. Everyone thought I was the problem. During that time I started having severe panic attacks every time he would yell at me and I would not be able to breathe, so then he would comfort me, say he loved me and that he wouldn't hurt me. Once I calmed down, he'd just do it all over again until I said what he wanted to hear or did what he wanted me to do (he would also force me to delete friends out of my life and even wanted me to stop talking to my male cousin). It sounds really similar, doesn't it?
This is abusive behavior. And I can tell you how mine ended up. I was eventually sexually abused repeatedly, threatened, my family threatened, and emotionally tormented for months. I had eating disorders, sleeping disorders, depression disorders, anxiety disorders, the panic attacks got worse, I started self-harming, and even attempted suicide. It is absolutely NOT worth it no matter how much you think you love him and he "loves" you. That is not love, it is abuse and you need to get out before it gets worse, because it WILL get worse.
The worst part is, and I'm sure you probably know how this is, you get attached to your abuser. Many people do not understand this, but these abusers know how to manipulate. In my case, he isolated me from friends and family, used personal things against me, and threatened me (so I couldn't leave). They also do what you described here, that "push/pull" game I call it. He abuses you into a panic attack and in your moment when you need someone to calm you down, he becomes your "hero". Wash, rinse, repeat. The isolation on top of this, a victim will become attached to their abuser for "survival". Again, please, value your life and leave ASAP.
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