I haven't had much luck with dating, I didn't have my first date until I was 20 (less than a year ago) and of the few girls I've dated only one went on more than one date with me... never had a girlfriend, not even in school.
Anyway I think I'm making some progress in terms of how well they dates feel like they've gone and in reducing the time between girls agreeing to go on a date with me (which is important as so far they've all lost interest fairly quickly, so I think the more girls I can date the better). So I'm not giving up on dating, and I think some of my problems are personality issues I need to change, however obviously being overweight isn't going to be helping - I don't see why a girl would want me as a boyfriend at the moment even if I had normal social skills.
So my question is should I stop investing time in dating for the moment and concentrate on getting fit in my spare time, then go back to dating in few months?
General suggestions/advice would be welcome.
- Yes, stop dating getting lean and fit.Vote A
- No, keep trying to date while getting fit.Vote B
- See answersVote C
Most Helpful Girl
Yes, absolutely. You should take as much time as you feel you need to take care of yourself. And do keep in mind ~ being healthy doesn't just mean working out and eating right, it's being able to accept and embrace yourself no matter what your dating status is or what you look like. Work on being healthy, rather than just being lean or fit0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
If they can not love us at our worst they do not deserve us at our best. Just a simple phrase to remember when dating. I could say get healthy for you and not another person but its not always that simple. Honestly what ever the reason you are getting fit is a good reason. But as to how it applies to your dating life, it doesn't! Just go out their and date. Trust me a relationship built on mutual friendship goes so much further than most of the ones built on mutual attraction. Just balance your time between dating and getting in shape. Dates are a few hours a week. Getting healthy is every meal and an hour of exercise a day. I was in the same boat as you I didn't date anyone until I was 21. I was over weight and a huge stereotypical socially awkward nerd. Have you tried online dating? That helped me a lot. You can find someone you get along with much faster and break the ice before you ever have to meet eye to eye.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE