A few months ago I met this guy at a bar. We talked and we had this connection I never felt with some rando before. At one point in the night he asked me how often I go to that bar and I said I honestly been there one time and he said same thing with him. He goes maybe its just destiny that we met. I laughed because I was like yah right... If this is your way of getting me in your bed its not going to work. We talked the next 2 days and then I noticed he was short with his texts so I figured he wasn't interested. One weekend I asked him about it and he said that he didn't want to hurt me and I don't want a guy like him. So of course I listened and left him alone. But then I would see him everytime I went out. As big as my school is we have no mutual friends and he we always ended up at the same bar. So eventually I stopped seeing him when I went out to bars. But now I see him everytime I'm on the road and we make eye contact with each other we just don't say anything. I saw him twice in one day too. At first I thought he was joking about this whole destiny thing but I don't know maybe it is just a coincidence? Do you blieve in destiny?
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Here's the deal with destiny.
If it is truly destined to be, nothing you do will change it because you have no free will in the matter. It's destiny. It's predetermined. The universe has spoken, and you will listen.
If it is destiny in a this-might-happen kind of way, then it's not really destiny since it's not destined. Get my drift?
So live your life with the idea that you have free will and that there is no destiny. That you and the people around you make your lives happen. After all, if it turns out that destiny - not your decisions - is at work then it was your destiny to pretend that you had no destiny.
I personally believe as a Christian that the final destination of the world is determined (God wins; Satan loses) and that God knows the future. Yet each of us still make that future happen through our decisions. In other words, do I believe that I have a destiny? No, since the choices I make will help create my future.
In respect to your current situation, it's a surprising coincidence. Could be that you keep seeing each other because you are keeping an eye out for each other. Maybe it's a good way to go. Maybe it's not. There's no destiny, so you decide and don't feel hemmed in by coincidence.4