Most Helpful Guy
Yes, people sabotage relationships all the time. None of us were fortunate enough to have classes to enroll in at school that could tell us how to seek, create and maintain a healthy, stable relationship. Add self-esteem issues and typical human emotions, like jealousy, and we've got an instant game of trying to be happy while avoiding life's obstacles being thrown at us.
People afraid for "being hurt" need to seek self awareness, because they're doing something to continuously attract bad relationships. The same goes with people who will be in a perfectly normal and happy relationship and destroy it by letting their insecurities and low feelings of self-worth creep in. Those are also people who could have spent more time learning to love themselves unconditionally and accepting themselves for who they are instead of seeking out someone who might make them happy.
People need to be happy on their own before they can expect to be happy in a long term relationship.1
Most Helpful Girl
No and yes.1