So I feel like I'm ready for a new partner, I want a girlfriend.
- Not fat but also not too skinny
- Doesn't look like a guy
- Doesn't have muscles like a man
- Want them to have longish hair
- If they're white I prefer them to have blue or green eyes
- I want them ink'd but not too Ink'd
- I want them to be drinkers but definitely not alcoholics
- I want them to accept I sometimes self harm
- I want them to accept I sometimes starve myself
- I want them to keep their negativity to themselves
- I don't want them to control me and tell me what I can and can't do
- I want them to put effort in with me
This isn't everything but with what you've read, do you think I expect way too much from a lady? :/
Most Helpful Guy
30% of america is obese. So you slimmed down your options to 60% of the population.
most girls are not muscular and do have long hair. so not slimming your options down by much.
blue or green eyes is rarer, but not too rare, i'd say so far you're looking at 20-30%
tattoos are rarer, so lets say 10%...
if she has tattoos she probably drinks or smokes weed
whether or not they accept you i dont think can be quantified. to be honest i dont know if any girl will ever accept anyone for who they are. i dont know if its in their nature.
you want them to keep their negativity to themselves? good luck with that. you dont want them to try to control you? dont date a woman. you want them to put effort into you, or anyone else but themselves? HAH. As if thats going to happen.
As far as the physical characteristics, you're well within reason... Many girls like that do exist and they're not so hard to find. But you may have to accept that beautiful women who are also good people may just not exist. At least not in the sense you are looking for. They are self absorbed, catty, mean manipulating and controlling and they're the way they are because they're beautiful. Because of how people treat them, and what it does to their minds.
Also if you consider gay people are about a 10th of the population, and the number of bisexual girls is smaller than that, you're looking at a girl whos 1/100 on physical and sexual traits alone. not even taking personality into it. At the same time i see lesbians always have a much easier chance finding someone because they MAKE it easier, because of what is available to them. You will have a much easier chance being a girl trying to fuck a girl then a guy trying to fuck a girl, even though there's less girls who that swing that way
Most Helpful Girl
Like the others said, it may be a bit hard to get a girl that completely matches everything here.
For example, there's plenty of women who match the personality, but are non-drinkers, and have no tattoos. Likewise, there's also many women who have tats, like alcohol in reasonable amounts, but will never just say 'oh yeah my gf self harms' and be fine with you continuing.
Instead of having these expectations as a kind of checklist, perhaps change some of them to preferences, or even just a loosely-held guide.