Been with my GF for about 3 months and things have been going great. She goes to college about 30mins away and lives with 3 of her girlfriends. Before we met she would go to the bars with her roomates 4-5 times a week. Since weve been together she hasn't gone out at all unless I've been with her (same goes with me, I only go out when I'm with her). There is only 3 weeks left for her at school and she told me a couple nights ago that she wants to go out with her roomates before school ends. We got in a slight argument but it ended with me telling her she can do what she wants. The more I think about it the more I'm not ok with her going out. People go to bars/clubbing to do 1 thing... drink and meet new people which most hope turns into sex... anyone who thinks otherwise is just lying. I feel this isn't about trust its about putting yourself in a bad situation... when you put people around temptations--in this case guys--and add alcohol you are just playing with fire right? When I asked her why she wanted to go out she again answered with there's not much school left and she wants to hang out with her roomates. Add in the fact that 2 of her roomates are sluts--not just throwing that term out there, they have slept with 40+ guys each.
I dont want to be controlling but at the same time I dont want to be a doormat and not speak my mind. Do I have a right to be mad here... and how should I address it with her?
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You don't have a right to be mad. Yes you should let her go. If you start controlling her behaviour there's a high chance she'll get sick of it and leave you anyway. You might not believe it but people go to bars to have fun and chill with their friends too. Plus if her friends are single they have every right to sleep with whoever they want without being called sluts - you wouldn't call guys that.
Bottom line is if you can't trust her then you shouldn't be with her. You can express your mind without being a doormat but you are being unreasonable here.4